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still on the mortgage with ex partner 7 years on!! help!!
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kingfisherblue said:chris86maloney said:Hi I am hoping for some advice although I feel my situation is very unique.
I have been split with my ex partner now for 7 years (never married), we share a son who is now 11 years old. At the time of splitting we went through mediation and eventually ended up in court to decide the division of the shared home. The court decided in the best interests of my son who was 4 years old at the time that my ex will stay in the property and certain conditions will be put in place that can "force the sale" - I use that very loosely i.e. remarriage, cohabiting for more than 6 months. Basically I will not be able to attempt to get off this mortgage until my son is out of full time education or 18 years old. She has since remarried and now split and has never once used her best endeavours to release me from the mortgage. Property is currently worth approx £300k and mortgage is £110k.
As you can imagine this is holding me back from owning a property of my own due to the difficulty of having a second home with two residential mortgages and also the increased stamp duty payable.
Can anyone who has come across something like this please offer some advice as to what options I have - in either getting my name off the mortgage and the equity from the house or even somehow utilising the equity to my advantage in a second charge mortgage to use as a deposit on a property for myself? Many thanks!!kingfisherblue said:chris86maloney said:Hi I am hoping for some advice although I feel my situation is very unique.
I have been split with my ex partner now for 7 years (never married), we share a son who is now 11 years old. At the time of splitting we went through mediation and eventually ended up in court to decide the division of the shared home. The court decided in the best interests of my son who was 4 years old at the time that my ex will stay in the property and certain conditions will be put in place that can "force the sale" - I use that very loosely i.e. remarriage, cohabiting for more than 6 months. Basically I will not be able to attempt to get off this mortgage until my son is out of full time education or 18 years old. She has since remarried and now split and has never once used her best endeavours to release me from the mortgage. Property is currently worth approx £300k and mortgage is £110k.
As you can imagine this is holding me back from owning a property of my own due to the difficulty of having a second home with two residential mortgages and also the increased stamp duty payable.
Can anyone who has come across something like this please offer some advice as to what options I have - in either getting my name off the mortgage and the equity from the house or even somehow utilising the equity to my advantage in a second charge mortgage to use as a deposit on a property for myself? Many thanks!!0 -
Spendless said:At the point she married that should have triggered a change that meant the property weas sold or she bought you out. Why didn't that happen? Why wasn't anyone informed of this change? How long was she married for before splitting up?0
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chris86maloney said:Spendless said:At the point she married that should have triggered a change that meant the property weas sold or she bought you out. Why didn't that happen? Why wasn't anyone informed of this change? How long was she married for before splitting up?0
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JReacher1 said:Are you still paying this mortgage? It’s a bit unclear.0
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Comms69 said:chris86maloney said:Spendless said:At the point she married that should have triggered a change that meant the property weas sold or she bought you out. Why didn't that happen? Why wasn't anyone informed of this change? How long was she married for before splitting up?0
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Unfortunately I have not had a great experience with the solicitors I have used as they seem to tell you what you want to hear just for the fees. not saying they are all the same as like every industry you get good and bad.0
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chris86maloney said:Comms69 said:chris86maloney said:Spendless said:At the point she married that should have triggered a change that meant the property weas sold or she bought you out. Why didn't that happen? Why wasn't anyone informed of this change? How long was she married for before splitting up?
As i said it seems like you had a bad solicitor, because the court has ordered, not advised, when the sale takes place.0
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