Friend paying to stay with us?

SeaVixen

MovingForwards said:

Can't offer any advice on cost, but it may help with the other issue you have 😉

Ha! Very true, it might! Though it could also make it worse as they'll have someone else to talk to! 

Anyone that is confused: I've got a thread on the Marriages/Families board about my in-laws coming over on a weeknight and staying until the early hours when my OH finally gets around to asking them to leave. 
At least with three of us here, there's three of us to loudly take turns getting ready for bed around them!

isplumm

SeaVixen said:

MovingForwards said:

Can't offer any advice on cost, but it may help with the other issue you have 😉

Anyone that is confused: I've got a thread on the Marriages/Families board about my in-laws coming over on a weeknight and staying until the early hours when my OH finally gets around to asking them to leave. 
At least with three of us here, there's three of us to loudly take turns getting ready for bed around them!

Do what I do when we have friends who start to out stay their welcome - say something like "don't know about you lot, but I'm tired so I'm off to bed". That normally drops the hint!!

Mark

Jumblebumble

SeaVixen said:

Comms69 said:

In 99% of cases you'll be fine. She's a lodger, and most mortgage products allow that. Obviously check. 

We checked the mortgage last night, and while it says we have to tell them about tennants, it doesn't mention lodgers. As far as I'm aware they are different things, but we're going to call them today to check. 

Just curious 
What possible reason is there to discuss with your Mortgage Co anyone staying for a month as I really think they could not care less ?
Bearing in mind that recalcitrant tenent is not quick or easy to get rid of where as a lodger can by and large  be removed by the police.
I would be far too concerned that the person I spoke to might not have the authority to give permission and would say No
Sometimes it is much better to ask forgiveness than permission.

SeaVixen

isplumm said:

Do what I do when we have friends who start to out stay their welcome - say something like "don't know about you lot, but I'm tired so I'm off to bed". That normally drops the hint!!

Oh, trust me, I've tried that. We've tried talking to them about it, we've tried just kicking them out. They obviously do leave eventually - though often we have to do it a couple of times before they do, and are often a bit abrasive about it. This has been going on for years. Having to do it once a fortnight is really draining for my OH, but we both agree that he should be the one to ask his parents to leave, as we don't want them to think I'm interfering or limiting the time with his parents.  This is the very short version, full details on the other thread if you're interested!  When the visits return properly after lockdown we're going to agree a time and always kick them out at that time, in the hopes that they eventually become trained to leave then without us having to ask. 

@Jumblebumble The only logic would be to ascertain if they consider a lodger to be different from a tenant, just to be on the safe side. You're right though, it might cause problems. I'll try contacting them on Twitter, as the question isn't specific to my mortgage, so they should be able to give an answer without my details. 

martindow

getmore4less said:
Make sure you have romantic arrangements agreed.

Is this in lieu of charging rent?

SeaVixen

martindow said:

getmore4less said:
Make sure you have romantic arrangements agreed.

Is this in lieu of charging rent?