Clarification on what these terms in my passed-away Father's will mean?

Autumn868

badger09 said:

Condolences on your loss. Don't beat yourself up the number of days you've spent crying about your lost dad. I still shed tears occasionally and I lost my lovely dad in traumatic circumstances (for me, thankfully not for him) more than 39 years ago.

2 questions:
Who are the executors named in the will which your mum has?

What makes you think he may have created a more recent will?

Thankyou, and I'm sorry to hear that.

I work for the NHS as a frontline staff member (have to go onto virus wards/interact with virus patients every shift), but so will always wonder/feel guilty and bad inside for the rest of my life incase if it was me who brought the virus from the hospital into my family's home, and passed it to my dad.


The 2 people named on the will as executors are family friends of my parents from the 1980s/90s...
But I personally don't know them and never met them, as my parents & them lost contact in the early/mid 1990s, 
so they literally just are 2 random people to me.

One of my sisters is a lawyer though and so she is handling all the legal aspects of the death (such as arranging funeral/chasing-up life-insurance... ect), and so I assume she is doing the will too.
(She doesn't live near me, plus as we don't get on I don't ever have contact with her directly).

And I thought that because he was extremely professional & business-like, so it just seems strange that he wouldn't keep all his documents regularly updates.
(As ultimately seeing something from 1996 seems basically like an ancient manuscript nowadays).

badger09

To be honest, if your dad was so business like and organised, I would have expected him to have a given a copy of any revised will to your mum (or sister?) and to have destroyed the 1996 one.  Presumably neither mum nor sister are aware of any later will.

Puzzling he should appoint family friends as executors and then almost immediately lose contact with them. In the absence of a later will, 1st step will be to trace them

SevenOfNine

Autumn868 said:

Hello and thankyou very much for your message, plus your kind words. 
I cried all day everyday for the 1st 5 days, but am settled & coping far better now than I had expected | But THAT is the thing which troubles & upsets me the most, as he was my lovely dad and the only one I will ever have, taken just like that within 9-days, but yet I only cried tears for his loss for 5-days....

Shock has just switched off the tears & traumatic emotions for a while, you won't 'only' cry for 5 days, you'll cry for years but for now things have to be done, you have a very responsible job in the front line that must also be done.  Your mind has just shut off the grief..........for now!  In a box, lid jammed on so don't feel guilty, or bad about it, it's like a jack-in-the-box & will launch right back out later.  Your job did not give your much loved dad coronavirus, this thing is doing as it pleases, taking some, leaving others. Don't beat yourself up it's fruitless.

My condolences.