Will some people need Counselling?

renegadefm

Genuine concern, will some people who hasent handled the lockdown very well,  for example maybe those who are not particularly grounded in the first place need counselling when this lockdown is lifted?
For example my partner struggles with not being able to travel to visit her family 38 miles away which we used to do each week. 
Then I'm wondering will some people find social gatherings alien and unsafe even after keeping a distance for so long? Maybe someone who is perhaps shy or timid, nervous etc in the first place.
I imagine counselling will go into over drive after this is all over. 

oystercatcher

I think there will be many relationship breakdowns too due to people being forced together plus added money worries and stress at work for NHS workers . Plus many will be bereaved as well.
I suspect I may struggle to start going out again once this is over. I'm quite enjoying the lack of pressure and freedom to do as I like at home. 

Comms69

oystercatcher said:

I think there will be many relationship breakdowns too due to people being forced together plus added money worries and stress at work for NHS workers . Plus many will be bereaved as well.
I suspect I may struggle to start going out again once this is over. I'm quite enjoying the lack of pressure and freedom to do as I like at home. 

And plenty of breakdowns due to time apart. Especially relatively new relationships.

Basically if you're single and have a bit of cash, this is the best thing since sliced bread in 6-9 months time

renegadefm

Comms69 said:

oystercatcher said:

I think there will be many relationship breakdowns too due to people being forced together plus added money worries and stress at work for NHS workers . Plus many will be bereaved as well.
I suspect I may struggle to start going out again once this is over. I'm quite enjoying the lack of pressure and freedom to do as I like at home. 

And plenty of breakdowns due to time apart. Especially relatively new relationships.

Basically if you're single and have a bit of cash, this is the best thing since sliced bread in 6-9 months time

I was going to say I work with someone who is in a relationship with someone and they both have their own places and children, but they havent seen each other for 4 weeks now. The lockdown kicked in just as they were due to see each other. Even their kids are suffering because they all got on together but couldn't live in the same house as it wouldn't have been big enough so they decided to maintain their own homes. 
But its been tough he said for all involved. 

Comms69

renegadefm said:

Comms69 said:

oystercatcher said:

I think there will be many relationship breakdowns too due to people being forced together plus added money worries and stress at work for NHS workers . Plus many will be bereaved as well.
I suspect I may struggle to start going out again once this is over. I'm quite enjoying the lack of pressure and freedom to do as I like at home. 

And plenty of breakdowns due to time apart. Especially relatively new relationships.

Basically if you're single and have a bit of cash, this is the best thing since sliced bread in 6-9 months time

I was going to say I work with someone who is in a relationship with someone and they both have their own places and children, but they havent seen each other for 4 weeks now. The lockdown kicked in just as they were due to see each other. Even their kids are suffering because they all got on together but couldn't live in the same house as it wouldn't have been big enough so they decided to maintain their own homes. 
But its been tough he said for all involved. 

Unfortunately the bonds of a relationship are formed in the first 2-4 months. Sporadic contact relationships are difficult enough (ie long distance, kids, etc) but manageable. But the extra stresses of this situation, i cant see it being something which survives long term. 

it might, of course. But really your hormones etc level out and you start to see the real person (not a bad thing per se), without the initial bonding connections. 

A little quirk, or a small compromises (e.g. a smoker, or tattoos, or dietary differences) become conflated. 

eamon

The form of lockdown that we have is probably more akin to "house arrest". The more tactile amongst us will probably feel the separation more keenly expecially the helplessness aspect. But i don't expect more general counsellors to more busy though I have read in a newspaper that Relate are reporting a spike in phone calls, maybe others are similar.

Fireflyaway

I do agree some people will struggle. I used to work in community development and can think of several residents I worked with who will struggle. One lady was living with domestic violence, one was a family with 6 young kids living on one low income, a gentleman who was elderly and alone. He was already depressed and struggling since his wife died and another who knew nobody in the area and had recently tried to end his life. For all these people the isolation and being forced to live in a stressful household is bound to impact them. I'm certain some kids will go without meals as well. The current situation just magnifies issues. I do hope once the risk of infection is over there will be support services created to deal with the aftermath. 

renegadefm

My partners sister lives in Hastings which is 298 miles away from us. She basically lives in a shared flat with 2 lodgers, but they all share the same toilet, shower,  even the lounge area where a TV is and a few soft furnishings, the only space she has got where she could self isolate is literally her bedroom.  But and its a big worry, both the guys who lodge there have signs of the coronavirus and she is petrified of catching it as they basically share a living accommodation apart from their bed spaces. What she do to keep herself safe given that the other 2 now have signs of the virus? It seems impossible as its as if they semi live together. But shes not related to them so feels in a state with no one to confide in. One of the guys rang 111 for advice and was told to self isolate,  but he said its almost impossible in a shared flat, and he requested a test to put the others mind at rest but they refused him a test. She has video called my partner but now my partner feels helpless because we cant drive the 300 miles to get her away from the situation which is what she wanted, but its not technically possible with a lockdown. What should she do? 

oystercatcher

renegadefm said:

My partners sister lives in Hastings which is 298 miles away from us. She basically lives in a shared flat with 2 lodgers, but they all share the same toilet, shower,  even the lounge area where a TV is and a few soft furnishings, the only space she has got where she could self isolate is literally her bedroom.  But and its a big worry, both the guys who lodge there have signs of the coronavirus and she is petrified of catching it as they basically share a living accommodation apart from their bed spaces. What she do to keep herself safe given that the other 2 now have signs of the virus? It seems impossible as its as if they semi live together. But shes not related to them so feels in a state with no one to confide in. One of the guys rang 111 for advice and was told to self isolate,  but he said its almost impossible in a shared flat, and he requested a test to put the others mind at rest but they refused him a test. She has video called my partner but now my partner feels helpless because we cant drive the 300 miles to get her away from the situation which is what she wanted, but its not technically possible with a lockdown. What should she do? 

It sounds pretty inevitable that she will catch the virus, they are effectively a household. She can try cleaning like a maniac before she uses any of the shared facilities  but to be honest she is probably already incubating the virus and will show signs soon.  Just as well you can't drive down and rescue her as this is exactly how the bug spreads.....

Most people do seem to recover well and hopefully she will too especially if no underlying health issues. My son and his pregnant wife seem to have had it (and everyone in son's office!) and a friend in her 70's . All report feeling absolutely terrible but back to normal within a week or so. Fingers crossed there will be no ill effects on my expected grandchild.

Here's hoping this lady stays well though. Horrible situation. Husband and I have accepted that if one of us gets it the other probably will, and we both have health issues ....... scary times!

Comms69

renegadefm said:

My partners sister lives in Hastings which is 298 miles away from us. She basically lives in a shared flat with 2 lodgers, but they all share the same toilet, shower,  even the lounge area where a TV is and a few soft furnishings, the only space she has got where she could self isolate is literally her bedroom.  But and its a big worry, both the guys who lodge there have signs of the coronavirus and she is petrified of catching it as they basically share a living accommodation apart from their bed spaces. What she do to keep herself safe given that the other 2 now have signs of the virus? It seems impossible as its as if they semi live together. But shes not related to them so feels in a state with no one to confide in. One of the guys rang 111 for advice and was told to self isolate,  but he said its almost impossible in a shared flat, and he requested a test to put the others mind at rest but they refused him a test. She has video called my partner but now my partner feels helpless because we cant drive the 300 miles to get her away from the situation which is what she wanted, but its not technically possible with a lockdown. What should she do? 

Its too late anyway, if they have it, chances are she has too. An infected person only shows symptoms after a few days

pickledonionspaceraider

Yes, a lot of people will need counselling
Doctors / nurses are seeing some harrowing sights.  The thing my nurse friend tells me are horrifying beyond belief.  We forget these are humans too whom are watching this first hand
Then there are those whom already had mental health conditions.  Suicide rate is already up

Plus there are the people who canot handle being repeatedly lied to by their own goverment and knowing that the death toll is likely double what they are telling us, as they are only including deaths in hospitals, not those in care homes etc