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Final Accounts - Funeral expenses from estate

Mackhie
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I am now (finally) at the stage where I am doing the Final Accounts for my late Mum's estate, to be divided with the only other benefactor. namely my 'brother'.
I had posted elsewhere about issues I was having w.r.t. creditors and such-like, which have now been more or less resolved. Thanks to all those who helped.
One question I now have is - does the wake (hall rental, food and bar tab) and a memorial plaque count towards funeral expenses. I.e. can these be reclaimed out of her estate (as they were originally paid for out of my pocket). My brother has stated, several times, verbally and in writing, that he doesn't consider her as his mother (I won't repeat his exact words here), so I can understand if he doesn't want to contribute towards the plaque.
1 - Does the cost of the wake count as part of the funeral expenses with regards to dividing up the estate?
2 - Should he be expected to contribute towards the cost of the plaque (which is in the crematorium grounds).
I had posted elsewhere about issues I was having w.r.t. creditors and such-like, which have now been more or less resolved. Thanks to all those who helped.
One question I now have is - does the wake (hall rental, food and bar tab) and a memorial plaque count towards funeral expenses. I.e. can these be reclaimed out of her estate (as they were originally paid for out of my pocket). My brother has stated, several times, verbally and in writing, that he doesn't consider her as his mother (I won't repeat his exact words here), so I can understand if he doesn't want to contribute towards the plaque.
1 - Does the cost of the wake count as part of the funeral expenses with regards to dividing up the estate?
2 - Should he be expected to contribute towards the cost of the plaque (which is in the crematorium grounds).
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does the wake (hall rental, food and bar tab) and a memorial plaque count towards funeral expenses. I.e. can these be reclaimed out of her estate (as they were originally paid for out of my pocket).
They are not your personal expenses but expenses of the estate and should be paid for from estate funds.
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Yes, all of it, with receipts, & he's not "contributing" to the plaque, the cost is met from estate funds.
Debts, all you have listed for the wake, plus the floral display on top of the coffin (we bought our own wreaths), burial rights for the cremation plot & a headstone, all from the estate funds. THEN the beneficiaries inherited from what was left.Seen it all, done it all, can't remember most of it.1 -
SevenOfNine said:Yes, all of it, with receipts, & he's not "contributing" to the plaque, the cost is met from estate funds.SevenOfNine said:Debts, all you have listed for the wake, plus the floral display on top of the coffin (we bought our own wreaths), burial rights for the cremation plot & a headstone, all from the estate funds. THEN the beneficiaries inherited from what was left.0
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Anything you don't have a receipt for, you could (if you have to show receipts) just show a line on the bank or credit card statement. Do you think he is going to demand receipts? Personally I'd just have one heading: 'funeral expenses' and put everything under that.
Whatever he feels about your mother, if he's willing to be a beneficiary, why should he query these expenses?
Having said that, if you just want an end of it, and you think he will object to contributing to the plaque, you could pay for it yourself.
What does the will actually say?Signature removed for peace of mind3 -
Savvy_Sue said:Anything you don't have a receipt for, you could (if you have to show receipts) just show a line on the bank or credit card statement. Do you think he is going to demand receipts? Personally I'd just have one heading: 'funeral expenses' and put everything under that.
Do I think he'll demand receipts? If you see my other thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6062690/at-my-wits-end/p1 you'd know that he seems to have made it his life's mission to screw me over any way possible for no apparent reason whatsoever. Seriously, I'm not kidding!Savvy_Sue said:Having said that, if you just want an end of it, and you think he will object to contributing to the plaque, you could pay for it yourself.Savvy_Sue said:What does the will actually say?0 -
I haven't completely re-read your earlier thread but I do remember it now. Just if she was insolvent, then there would have been nothing to share with him. And clearly you managed to sort things out so that there WAS some sort of legacy. And the cost of a plaque might be a significant % of that.
I'd probably go for the 'quiet life' option, myself.Signature removed for peace of mind1 -
The plaque is not a legitimate funeral expense - just pay for it yourselfNever pay on an estimated bill. Always read and understand your bill0
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Savvy_Sue said:I'd probably go for the 'quiet life' option, myself.
I'll double check with a solicitor (and send the text like I said, at least then he can;t say I never gave him the opportunity to make his peace). I'll probably end up paying for the plaque, doesn't bother me.
What about the wake though? Is that considered standard funeral expense?0 -
Yes, the wake is part of the funeral expenes....make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
and we will never, ever return.1 -
xylophone said:They are not your personal expenses but expenses of the estate and should be paid for from estate funds.McKneff said:Yes, the wake is part of the funeral expenes....Robin9 said:The plaque is not a legitimate funeral expense - just pay for it yourself
Any one of you care to maybe give some reference or a link to some website with some really useful advice pertaining to this matter? That would be most helpful.1
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