Harassed by our neighbour

pickledonionspaceraider

@danumd

We had similar when we had saved for years, and moved in next to a LHA tenant who behaved so appallingly that we bitterly regretted buying our house.   

From the very morning we pulled up with our removal van he started shouting - even before we had put one stick of furniture in the house, and then relentlessly pestered the hell out of us for months ......there was no 'don't answer the door' to this guy - I would come home from work and he would be sitting on my doorstep..

This did not let up until we told him firmly not to STAY AWAY FROM US and STOP knocking our door. If he had any legit complaints to go about them officially and that we were not interested in hearing them any more.  It was a last ditch attempt at getting him to see reason.  We only wanted to live peacefully. From them on i stopped contact with him entirely and he stopped knocking. I would not even look at him. 

To be honest, if being firm hadn't worked, we would have moved not long after - we had already started making plans to go and house-hunting.  Anyway couple of years later the neighbour passed away.  We have wonderful neighbours now. So polite and lovely

OP I would be looking to move ASAP.  It will grind you down hugely

She is not going to leave you alone, she has latched now.  Mental health issues or NOT does not give her the right to ruin someone elses enjoyment of their home - so really that is a moot point

RelievedSheff

In your situation I would be looking to move as soon as possible. 

We were stuck with nightmare neighbours for 12 years and you can not underestimate the stress that this puts on your day to day living. It was only when we moved that we realised just how unhappy we had both become!

Smodlet

Brock_and_Roll said:

Smodlet said:

Brock_and_Roll said:

Frankly I would just tell her to do one - not going to be intimidated in my own by some mad catwoman next door. As for the cat, when I had little ones, I warned my multiple rescue cat owning neighbour in no uncertain terms about what would happen if any of them carried on fouling my garden. Problem solved.

Just because someone likes cats does not make them "some mad catwoman".  People are not legally responsible for the actions of their cats/any other pets (afaik) except for dogs; dogs are different:  Once upon a time, a licence was required to own one; cats have never required one to own their humans.

It is physically impossible to prevent a cat from going to the loo wherever he/she deems fit.  While yelling or spraying water at them whilst on your property is probably acceptable to most, doing them any physical harm whatsoever is not; it should be illegal and probably is.

I sincerely hope you are not guilty of any such action, BaR.

I will not allow anyone's cat to put my childrens health at risk from toxiplasmosis while they played in their own garden - so I have taken action in the past and would do so again. However, I am an animal lover and can assure you there was no suffering involved.

"No suffering involved"?  So you are that good a shot, are you?  <Damn, where are the cool icons -wink->

I was pulled up on this, on this board, back in the day.  Toxoplasmosis affects only pregnant women, apparently.  Toxicara can affect children... That may be wrong, I don't really care.  It does not alter the fact that cats have a perfect right to live and cannot be expected to know what fences mean to humans; they mean footpaths to cats.  Children, on the other hand, should be supervised and educated not to play with any creature's sshh.  They can also be taught to wash their hands (apparently)

Had you a dog/pony/whatever, would you punish him/her for the fact your children knew no better than to touch his/her defecations?