Tracing someone

ConfusedAndAlone

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, I know I won't get any or deserve any. 
I was in an abusive relationship about 4 years back. I didn't see at the time this incident happened, nor would I have believed my ex would have done what he done. 
My ex boyfriend hated my friend, He hated we were close and he couldn't understand a man and woman could be friends without anything more. He would do anything to stop us from meeting up. Stop us from talking and stop my friend from knowing anything. I didn't see anything as I was blind to "He loved me" I know better now. I'm out of the relationship.

One night me and my ex were talking and planning to go out. He suggested we meet up with my friend and we go for a drive somewhere and eat. I was happy that he was finally accepting my friend is just my friend. We all go out. (and this is what I know now) my ex put a lot of illegal drugs in my friends car. He then proceeded to ring the police and have my friend arrested. There was enough planted to get my friend arrested for dealing. My ex said "He knew all along he wasn't right". My friends parents disowned him and I did go and see him a few times when he was on remand and in prison. He pleaded not guilty and was sentenced to 8 years. I know there was an appeal, but things were heavily stacked against him. Last time I saw him, I asked why he just didn't plead guilty. He said that he didn't do it. We did argue a bit in the visit. He said he didn't want me to visit again as if I wasn't in his corner there was no point. He then wished me all the best and asked the guard to take him away. I tried to put another visit request in and it was declined. I wrote and never got a reply. I'm not sure if he had the guards stop post. 

I did attempt to contact him, I did find out from his last prison he was released, Last week. At my mums house, I received a package and a UPS envelope. The package was a coffee machine and a the envelope contained a gift card and a letter. The letter was from my friend and it said He heard from a mutual contact that I had bought my own house and he wanted to get me something, he apologised it wasn't much but that's all he could afford as "no one really wants to hire a supposed drug dealer" the gift card was for Debenhams. He must spent £150 and if he is struggling I couldn't accept these gifts, In fact I'd want to help him and explain things. I know he would never want to be friends again, but I just want to know he is ok. that I'm sorry and if he needs he can have my spare room.

So I am trying to trace him. I thought I'd contact Amazon, Amazon said they can't release the buyers details to me. I contacted UPS and all I got was I need to refer to the account holder, I asked who the account holder was and they wouldn't tell me. I asked for the collection address, They said it was dropped off at a depot, but won't tell me the precise depot.

Is there any tracing services for people who left Prison? Could the prison tell me or would the probation service tell me? I know I'm a terrible person. I just want to explain things, and if he doesn't want anything more then fine. I also just want to make sure he is ok.

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Nobody will tell you due to data protection. You're best searching the likes of Facebook 

ConfusedAndAlone

_shel said:

Nobody will tell you due to data protection. You're best searching the likes of Facebook 

I deleted him years ago. I can't find him anymore. So I'm guessing I have been blocked.

Tigsteroonie

ConfusedAndAlone said:

_shel said:

Nobody will tell you due to data protection. You're best searching the likes of Facebook 

I deleted him years ago. I can't find him anymore. So I'm guessing I have been blocked.

So ask a friend if you can search using their account? Or set up a second account, temporary, using a different email address?

ConfusedAndAlone

Tigsteroonie said:

ConfusedAndAlone said:

_shel said:

Nobody will tell you due to data protection. You're best searching the likes of Facebook 

I deleted him years ago. I can't find him anymore. So I'm guessing I have been blocked.

So ask a friend if you can search using their account? Or set up a second account, temporary, using a different email address?

Good idea, Do you think it would be pointless as in he would block that account? I just want to talk to him, even if its one last time.

[Deleted User]

ConfusedAndAlone said:

Tigsteroonie said:

ConfusedAndAlone said:

_shel said:

Nobody will tell you due to data protection. You're best searching the likes of Facebook 

I deleted him years ago. I can't find him anymore. So I'm guessing I have been blocked.

So ask a friend if you can search using their account? Or set up a second account, temporary, using a different email address?

Good idea, Do you think it would be pointless as in he would block that account? I just want to talk to him, even if its one last time.

At least you'll have tried. You can't do more!
If you could rekindle your friendship to an extent that would be a bonus.
Best wishes in your efforts.

MovingForwards

You can instruct tracing agents who may be able to locate your old friend based on what information you have, they are not cheap though.

onwards&upwards

May I suggest that the only bit of your post that was necessary and relevant is the final paragraph.  Cutting out the rest may get more responses. 

Skiddaw1

OP, slightly on a tangent, I'm surprised he received an 8 year sentence if the alleged offense was a first offense. Are you sure he really was innocent and that your ex partner definitely framed him? Does he perhaps have a back-story?

As for tracking him down, is there a mutual friend who might know where he is possibly? But perhaps it might be better to let sleeping dogs lie....

PasturesNew

It is difficult to trace living people.  I'd build a family tree insofaras I could manage - and try to find other people, not look for him specifically, this has a way of making them appear from the woodwork, e.g. in a friends list on Facebook.  I'd also google the name, and Facebook search. 
How lucky you will be will depend on how much you know about him and his current whereabouts. 
You might find him in 10 minutes, or 2 years. 

My advice is: go after people associated with him, people in his family... trawl through people's Facebook accounts looking for clues and hints. 

ConfusedAndAlone

Skiddaw1 said:

OP, slightly on a tangent, I'm surprised he received an 8 year sentence if the alleged offense was a first offense. Are you sure he really was innocent and that your ex partner definitely framed him? Does he perhaps have a back-story?

As for tracking him down, is there a mutual friend who might know where he is possibly? But perhaps it might be better to let sleeping dogs lie....

If my friend was a drug dealer he was the worst one ever, To him a treat was going to M&S for lunch or going to the chip shop. He saved his money, If he wanted something he worked overtime.
Now I'm afraid he doesn't eat enough or has money for gas/electricity