Financial help after fleeing domestic violence

nannymandie67

My ex DIL has fled DV by an ex boyfriend. She had to leave all her posessions and household furniture as well. She is now living back near us with her baby and has been offered and excepted a flat from the local hosing association. When she was applying to our council she was told her HV , social services etc would help her financially in getting at least white goods into the flat. They have all turned round now and said they cant help her which has me and my husband to going into our savings to help her. Are there any groups or associations that anyone knows of that will actually help her and us?? We are in Gosport. The ex by the way has given away all the furniture they had and moved in with his new gf.

JuzaMum

I would get looking on freecycle, gumtree freebies and Facebook Marketplace. You can often get good stuff free if you can collect quickly. Good luck to her

need_an_answer

There probably isn't a national charity per se that could help with this type of thing but you could look at local facebook groups,gumtree,freecycle british heart foundation chartity electrical stores....those types of things.

Items don't need to be new so you don't need to use your savings in order to provide white goods and there are possibly several projects for families on low incomes in the area that may be able to help.

google free items in your area and you'll probably have a starting point...people can be very generous and you could find that with a bit of creativity you could help her to furnish her property not newly but with something of a very serviceable quality...

I wish her luck going forward and hope you can all stay strong going forward.

Winter_Phoenix

Sign on with your local Freegle group and explain why you need items - someone (or several someones) will almost certainly help.

And ask at your local Foodbank - some Foodbanks have sister organisations which can supply furniture and household goods to those in need.

Good luck!

Skiddaw1

Try local charities too. There nearly always are one or two that could potentially provide grants towards some of the items she needs.



For example:


https://grants-search.turn2us.org.uk/grant/thorngate-relief-in-need-and-general-charity-16066

DCFC79

Well whats in/around Gosport ?

BHF might help, wont be free.
If you want free try freecycle.

Facebook Marketplace might have free or at least cheap appliances but you wont be covred by anything if it goes wrong.

Comms69

nannymandie67 wrote: »

My ex DIL has fled DV by an ex boyfriend. She had to leave all her posessions and household furniture as well. She is now living back near us with her baby (his baby also?) and has been offered and excepted a flat from the local hosing association. When she was applying to our council she was told her HV , social services etc would help her financially in getting at least white goods into the flat. They have all turned round now and said they cant help her which has me and my husband to going into our savings to help her. - Not being rude, that's what parents do - CORRECTION, NOT PARENTS, SO FAIR PLAY Are there any groups or associations that anyone knows of that will actually help her and us?? We are in Gosport. The ex by the way has given away all the furniture they had and moved in with his new gf.

Depends on what kind of help you need? If you mean money, not really. But lots of facebook groups where they offer free or cheap furniture etc

need_an_answer

A little bit of an assumption there Comms...I read it that its an ex daughter in law so technically these are not her parents and presumably its not something they need to do.

I guess they are just trying to help but I see no reason why they are obliged to as a birth right.

Comms69

need_an_answer wrote: »

A little bit of an assumption there Comms...I read it that its an ex daughter in law so technically these are not her parents and presumably its not something they need to do.

I guess they are just trying to help but I see no reason why they are obliged to as a birth right.

You know what, hold my hands up - misread it.


What's the relationship with the baby - grandson or ?

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If she goes to her housing department there is some help for essentials. Its not commonly known about but its what was put in place instead of the community grants you used to get. But you do have to be in receipt of benefits to get the help as far as I know.

I googled 'help for furniture in Kent (where I live) and came up with all sorts of charities that help and the help offered by my council https://www.kent.gov.uk/social-care-and-health/care-and-support/benefits/home-essentials-in-a-crisis

This is obviously just an example to give you a hint as to useful terms to use when searching for help. The council run help is not very generous, but its better than nothing.

I think its very nice that this person wants to help, obligations or not. Its called caring and has nothing to do with obligations. You can help a neighbour without having an obligation to do so. Quite often any society would fall apart without people who don't have to, helping people in extreme circumstances. You do have to be a little careful as a desire to help can be misused, but I thank goodness for those that do.

need_an_answer

It could be grandson,but again the way I read it its the now ex partners child.

this is potentially a case of a couple wishing to help out the ex of their son when presumably a newer relationship has also faltered