Can solicitor begin conveyancing without signed permission?

Skiddaw1

That could be an excellent suggestion if your step sister will agree OP.


Is there any possibility that all the executors will agree that the solicitor effectively takes on the executor role? Got to be better than the current situation.

Woolington

Did you keep the other executors informed? Perhaps your step-sister thinks she is doing all the legwork and she is being undermined?

where is the emoji of a smiley bashing its head against a wall when you need it??? YESSSSS! I've been the fount of all information openness and honesty - I should be knighted or sanctified! The stepsister has just seethed to an Olympic degree! (if theres legwork in seething then I concede!) Even the solicitor is apologetic at the fact that the stepsister is clearly enjoying the sport of sibling baiting and that she hasn't been able to control it - and yes, we pay her for this - that was the deal!

Woolington

Is there any possibility that all the executors will agree that the solicitor effectively takes on the executor role? Got to be better than the current situation

That's what we have. Everyone bar the one that thinks she's a solicitor/estate agent/bank manager/Boris Johnson is very much complying to having our own roles to play. She just cannot resist interfering with everybody else. I just despair.

Sorry if it sounds trite, I can imagine it does. Its been 3 years of this in one form or another. I think I'm having 3 years of flipping out today. Thank you to all for your comments and thoughts.

Smodlet

Presumably having her certified as insane is not an option..?

Not making light of your situation, OP, it must be a nightmare; good luck. Who needs this at any time but especially now when everything solicitor-related grinds to a halt for 2 weeks plus?

One day, it will all be in your rear-view; courage!

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As the mother of a stepson (his father has died which is bad enough, but he married before dying - his right of course and very glad he did as he had cancer, any comfort he could get was good - but I am left explaining to my son that the money his father had and promised to him is now his stepmom's). I also had much the same happen to me. Father remarried, and I was no longer part of his family although his only blood relative. When he died all I could do was clean up his place, I wasn't allowed to do anything else. Obviously a lot going on in history to explain this but didn't help the grief process. Very much a non person (and I didn't fight this, but some would). Reading his will that didn't even mention my name was heart breaking. But I did, and realised that was that, I didn't exist, and didn't insist on anything else, it was his wish. But it was hard. Particularly when I was asked to hand over the only long time past family history photos. I wasn't even allowed to look at some historic letters his father had written in WW1, they were just sent to a museum. I just didn't exist. It really underlined in a way I could not ignore I had no family. And yes, that wasn't easy.

Perhaps your step sister has a reason for her feelings, ones you just don't recognise. You sort of describe yourself as a bit of a martyr. You may be, but you may not be. There is always another person's point of view.

I suspect, (it doesn't really matter who is wrong and who is right at this point) if you can get everyone to agree, the solicitor needs to be put in a position where they can just get on with it, and you all get the monies at the end, and walk away and start healing.

Smodlet

I'm with deanna on this. The day I realised my so-delightful father was right when he told me, "You can't choose your family, thank God you can choose your friends" was the day I began to realise blood is not thicker than water; no-one would have chosen him as a father.

The only things that matter are love, respect and trust: The people who give you those and expect them from you are your family, no matter what.