My ex has asked me to help falsify her HB claim

lisyloo

In what way can she make your life hell.
If she is bothering you by phone then block her number, you don’t have to let her do this.
Yes she’s the mother of your son but she is reponsible for her choices and behaviour so you do not have to allow this.

bflare

lisyloo wrote: »

In what way can she make your life hell.
If she is bothering you by phone then block her number, you don’t have to let her do this.
Yes she’s the mother of your son but she is reponsible for her choices and behaviour so you do not have to allow this.

Good point! I don't even have to talk to her if I don't like. She speaks to my Son on his phone & to be honest he is getting to the point that he no longer wants to speak to her due to her behaviour. I am not going to lie for her no way. She is blaming me for the situation because I have put a claim in for child benefit which must have made them contact the housing benefit team who now say that she is no longer entitled to a 2 bed house & have also reduced her benefits. So it's easier for her to blame me than to acknowledge that it is all a result of her actions. It's all been a very difficult time to be honest especially for my son but I am protecting him as much as possible.

LocoLoco

bflare wrote: »

Good point! I don't even have to talk to her if I don't like. She speaks to my Son on his phone & to be honest he is getting to the point that he no longer wants to speak to her due to her behaviour. I am not going to lie for her no way. She is blaming me for the situation because I have put a claim in for child benefit which must have made them contact the housing benefit team who now say that she is no longer entitled to a 2 bed house & have also reduced her benefits. So it's easier for her to blame me than to acknowledge that it is all a result of her actions. It's all been a very difficult time to be honest especially for my son but I am protecting him as much as possible.

You're doing the right thing, OP, she doesn't sound as if she has your lad's best interests at heart so don't let her manipulate the situation or make you think you've done anything wrong. It's perfectly acceptable for her not to have the same entitlement to benefits if he lives with you now - her costs will have gone down without him there full time and she doesn't need a two bed if he doesn't live with her. Focus on yourself and your son and keep her at arm's length if you can, she doesn't sound like a joy to have around

bflare

LocoLoco wrote: »

You're doing the right thing, OP, she doesn't sound as if she has your lad's best interests at heart so don't let her manipulate the situation or make you think you've done anything wrong. It's perfectly acceptable for her not to have the same entitlement to benefits if he lives with you now - her costs will have gone down without him there full time and she doesn't need a two bed if he doesn't live with her. Focus on yourself and your son and keep her at arm's length if you can, she doesn't sound like a joy to have around

It is a big mess to be honest & the last 6 months or so have been difficult. She has been trying to hold on to my son staying there more when he hasn't wanted to & I believe a big part of it has been to d with money which is very sad. From what I can gather none or very little of the maintenance that I was paying was going towards my son's upkeep as I was still having to buy him clothes, haircuts etc & she was still asking to borrow money from me. Anyway, I have slowly got things in control & he lives with me now so I can make sure he is provided for properly. But obviously these little things keep popping up & because she isn't willing to accept any role in what is happening I automatically get the blame. The less I have to do with her the better & as sad as it sounds it appears that my son feels the same way too.