Walking noise

bouicca21

If I remember the other thread correctly OP has been in the flat for something like 18 months, but only now have they been walking ‘heavily’. It is of course entirely possible that there is a genuine problem but given the weird garden issues I suspect that the neighbour has mental health problems.

mollycat

bouicca21 wrote: »

If I remember the other thread correctly OP has been in the flat for something like 18 months, but only now have they been walking ‘heavily’. It is of course entirely possible that there is a genuine problem but given the weird garden issues I suspect that the neighbour has mental health problems.

Or that they are the type of people that feel entitled to dictate to others how they should live their lives.

OP, ignore the snidey suggestion a few posts up suggesting you might like to become more "polite" or "civil".

Sounds like you have tried to deal as well as you could have with some unpleasant, entitled neighbours.

Unfortunately, having had the same experience I have to tell you they will never change. You could thow down carpet over carpet, next thing there will be some other aspect of your normal living they are not happy with and want you to moderate.

Given your efforts to remedy the situation have failed, I would say your only options are to live your life and accept, or move.

Good luck

rach_k

Could you carpet the main living area and see if that helps? You might find it helps with you being able to hear/smell them too.

arciere

Just to clarify a few things because I see that the way I wrote the post, without knowing the background, makes it sound like I don't care or I'm doing it on purpose.
(I have previously lived in a ground floor flat where the tenants upstairs were like elephants and the next door guy used to play loud metal music until 2am in the morning, so I do know how it feels when you can't relax or sleep in your own house).

We (wife and I and guys downstairs) purchased the two flats at the same time, so in a way we had the same 'journey'. Since day 1 I tried to be a good neighbour, asking him (she never spoke to us) 'how's your flat? any issues? Let me take care of the buildings insurance, here's my electrician's phone number, in case you need it; Let me know if you sleep on Saturday morning so we won't be hoovering; is it ok if I mow the lawn tomorrow morning at 11am?' and so on.

Then the first friction started when a delivery guy delivered a box (with blinds inside) to them because we were not at home (we didn't know the delivery date, we didn't ask the courier to deliver to them, we were expecting the usual we-missed-you card). She went crazy saying things like: are we supposed to keep this big box in our corridor? It's heavy! You should have told us! Don't expect us to receive your boxes! The delivery guy was rude!
We apologised saying that unfortunately we had no control over who's delivering our stuff, but that didn't work.

Weeks later we had the problem with the shared front garden, they decided to cut pretty much everything because they were 'more affected than us', since they live on the ground floor. They stopped when we said we would take legal action, but nevertheless the garden is now destroyed, we can't put anything there because they may decide to remove it and obviously they don't want to do anything with it, apart from removing what's left.

Knowing how stressful a bad relationship with your neighbour can be, we offered several times to discuss any matter in person to avoid misunderstandings (at one point I said 'if you don't want to come upstairs, let's go to Starbucks in a 'neutral territory'), we stopped using the portable dehumidifier in some rooms after they complained about the vibration noise, we don't listen to music with speakers, no shoes in the house and no noise of any kind at night.

Now, I am not saying that there is no noise problem. We can hear them talking, so I am fairly sure that they can hear us walking as well and I know that it can be very stressful. However, given that this thing is making me worry about every single step I make in the flat, I have asked myself if it is really worth it.

We also have problems with them (they cook and don't open windows, so the smell rises in our flat, they refused to put 'FLAT 1' on their door so the postman always mixes up the letters, they have loud arguments in the middle of the night and all they say is 'sorry, family issues, can't resolve them'), but we rarely say anything, mainly because we don't want this to turn into a war.

So, in a different situation I would have dealt with the problem in a completely different way, but now I think I have reached a point where my only concern is: what am I legally obliged to do?

mollycat

Although your clarification was helpfull, probably not needed as most people on the thread, (i've read both your nightmare neighbours threads in full) get it!

As i said before, good luck

arciere

rach_k wrote: »

Could you carpet the main living area and see if that helps? You might find it helps with you being able to hear/smell them too.

We could, but we could be just wasting money as I am sure they will keep complaining because we will never be able to reach the level of insulation they are dreaming of (knowing that it is a converted flat in a council house, we chose the first floor flat on purpose).

Skiddaw1

It's a nightmare isn't it?


Honestly, OP, even if you learned to levitate I doubt it would make a blind bit of difference. Her Downstairs would find something else to moan about. They're just the Neighbours From Hell and always will be.


Sadly, I don't think you have any choice other than to try to ignore them or move. It may be time to cut your losses and get out of this impossible situation.


Good luck.