Whats a suitable punishment.

bonnie_2

my 16 year old dd, went to a party saturday night and we got a phone call from her teacher who was running it, to pick her up at ten o'clock as she was literaly legless.
He apologised and said he couldn't check there bags as they were going in and quiet a few were in the same state.

floss2

Who organised the party? Was it a school-thing? I would complain to the organisers but would also ground & question the daughter...were you aware that she drank before this party? Or is it a one-off? Did she have a hangover, as this can sometimes put them off!

adouglasmhor

You should have got her up early on Sunday morning for a fried breakfast followed by some family time - maybe at a bagpipe or organ recital or some such untrendy but loud event.

Then have a word with her, as calmly as you can manage go through all the things that can go wrong when you get yourself in such a state and let her know how much it would hurt all the family if she was to get injured or be in an accident etc.

Punishment wise I don't know but maybe a good old fashioned guilt trip along with general aprobation for a while, at 16 she is turning into a young adult but we all made mistakes at this stage (except Studentphil who was kept in a cupboard untill he was 17.)

hobbesy_2

I did a similar thing myself at 16 (must have been almost 17 as I was at college). I was very sick and called my friends mum who came to get me and took me home. My mum literally had to put me in the bath with my clothes on as I was in that much of a state (oh the shame!), but she was really nice to me about it and it as one of the better things she ever did. She spoke to me like an adult, and understood we'd all done something similar around that age and knew I'd learn from it. From then on I felt a lot more that I could talk to her about going out, etc and as probably safer in the long-run because of that.

Obviously you want to know who was supplying the drink, etc and she's far more likely to tell you if you keep a clear head and stay calm about it all

Keri -x-

ps. Remind me I said all this when my eldest turns 16 in 12 years!

pinkshoes

Lol I did the same thing when I was (only just) 16, it was after a school event... I'm not even sure how I got home, although I was so drunk I couldn't even sit up to puke, so my dad had to hold my head over a bucket!!

My punishment was a 7am wake up call on sunday, and I was made to walk into town to go get the sunday paper, and then had to wash both cars (In December - brrrrrrrrrr!).

Don't be TOO hard on her. 16 year olds do get drunk sometimes, and if you come down on her too hard, she's more likely to do it again. Just tell her you understand that it's fun to get p*ssed every now and then, but would she mind not getting herself in that sort of state again! And then let her pick her own punishment (obviously something you agree with!).

She's almost an adult, and maybe would appreciate being treated like an adult over this.

Stephb1986_2

Kids will be kids though, just sit her down talk to her like she is a adult and explain to her how dangerous alcohol can be and that you hope she had a cracking hang over and will not try alcohol till she's old enough. afterall kids are out in the parks now drinking white lightning (i never did wasnt allowed out) but if you treat her like a adult and trust her she might listen


Stephb xxx

hobo28

I agree not to be too harsh. My mum never made a fuss when I were a kid and I'm sure as a result its why I have my take it or leave it attitude to alcohol. Had she made it taboo it would have made it more desirable. The fact my mum would happily go to the off license for me took some of the fun away.

I like Pinkshoe's suggestion. The punishment should have been to wake up early and do lots of chores with a hangover.

custardy

funny i drank at 16(looked older so could get served in pubs) but by the time i was 21 i was bored of drinking so didnt drink much lol.

think you just need to give her 'the' talk on responsible drinking

Psykicpup

did she go to school today - if she did she was probably ribbed about it - that hurts too
Definatley sit down for a girly adult chat about what happened & what might have happened -eek
She needs to know that you are disappointed but you understand that when you are not used to alcohol, it can be easy to mistake how much to drink (without encouraging her to drink of course)
After a chat you may find punishment is not the solution - this mostly was a learning experience for her I'd guess.....