Neighbours complaining about my kids running...

sgun

6am? Dear God. That is all.

Murphybear

We lived in a property where the occupant above us started tap dancing. :eek:

We had a quiet word in her ear and she apologised profusely and found somewhere else to practise.

Kad_Williams

I sympathise with you, but as someone who is in the position of your downstairs neighbour. I live below someone who as kids around a couple of days a week. So I have some understanding. It's noisy sometimes. But there not much you can do about it and the fact that they have carpet doesn't do whole lot in my experience.


But I live in London so what could I really expect! The gestures of putting down carpeting and rugs are good ideas - they show you are doing you best. But mutual tolerance and acceptance is really the name of the game here. I hope you don't feel like you're in the wrong here because honestly - as I know from experience - it's often realistically too difficult a problem to solve. Take some pressure off yourself if you can. It really isn't that deep as far as I can see.

LD40

Not sure what hot pans has to do with the OP’s problem. There’s always one magnificent parent isn’t there.

OP, please allow your children to play and enjoy themselves in their own home but do check re the carpet situation, rugs etc.

sgun

LD40 wrote: »

Not sure what hot pans has to do with the OP’s problem. There’s always one magnificent parent isn’t there.

OP, please allow your children to play and enjoy themselves in their own home but do check re the carpet situation, rugs etc.

The point is that you can allow your children to run about at certain times and stop them doing it at others. The neighbours wouldn't have complained if the noise was acceptable. The OP seems to think that kids up and making noise at 6am is acceptable so I'm guessing that they aren't actually being that considerate.

I'm often up at 6. I really don't want to hear kids running about then. It would totally do my head in if I then went out to work and came back in to the sound kids running about when I had been disturbed at 6am before work too.

AndyTails

sgun wrote: »

The point is that you can allow your children to run about at certain times and stop them doing it at others. The neighbours wouldn't have complained if the noise was acceptable. The OP seems to think that kids up and making noise at 6am is acceptable so I'm guessing that they aren't actually being that considerate.

I'm often up at 6. I really don't want to hear kids running about then. It would totally do my head in if I then went out to work and came back in to the sound kids running about when I had been disturbed at 6am before work too.

As the parent of a 1 year old: a 1 year old doesn't have the mental capacity to understand instructions, and doesn't even understand being told off. So I can stop my child moving around the kitchen by either A) strapping him into a high chair or shutting him in a different part of the house. Option A is only suitable for short times, not for the whole day, and Option B isn't going to stop noise for downstairs neighbours (if I had any), it'll just move it.

There's reasonably asking a parent to be considerate, and then there's unreasonably asking a parent to stop their child from being a child. You're doing the latter.

Socajam

AndyTails wrote: »

As the parent of a 1 year old: a 1 year old doesn't have the mental capacity to understand instructions, and doesn't even understand being told off. So I can stop my child moving around the kitchen by either A) strapping him into a high chair or shutting him in a different part of the house. Option A is only suitable for short times, not for the whole day, and Option B isn't going to stop noise for downstairs neighbours (if I had any), it'll just move it.

There's reasonably asking a parent to be considerate, and then there's unreasonably asking a parent to stop their child from being a child. You're doing the latter.

sgun is right and I totally agree.
Boundaries for little Jimmy starts at home because by the time he goes to school, what do you think will happen to him? People like you will blame the teachers, whereas he was never taught right from wrong at home.
As the parents it's your responsibility to teach your child about being considerate to others, failure to do do will result in a selfish brat and I can see you back on here in later years complaining about him
Maybe the OP should ask if she could listen in on the noise that her children is making.
Today's parents are some of the dumbest people on the planet because their priority is always for their little brat to be able to express themselves at others' expense.
If I were the downstairs tenants, I would go away for the weekend and leave my music blaring so that someone like you can get a taste of your own medicine.

RelievedSheff

It is the responsibility of the parent to ensure that their children do not have an adverse effect on those living around them. The parent made the decision to have the child so they need to make the neccesary changes to their lifestyle to ensure they don't inflict a nuisance on people around them.

Having lived next door to neighbours with noisy children I can tell you it is probably one of the most annoying noises a neighbour can inflict on those around them.

The child has to learn that they can not make all the noise that they want in the environment that they live in. If you want your child to be able to run riot and make as much noise as possible you need to get a detached house not live in a flat.

phill99

Isn't it marvellous how a post about sound deadening has soon escalated into a Mums Net advice line about parenting skills, long term impact on a child's development and the OPs apparent incapacity to be en effective parent.


Somebody in a minute will be offering to ring Social Services as clearly the OP needs to have their children taken into care.


Sweet Mother of God.

RelievedSheff

Well that would solve the need for sound deadening........