Help with housing association flat with wife

grendizer

Greeting all,

I do apologise if this topic in the wrong place

Due to financial difficulties, I am in the process of separation and divorce with my wife.
Her friends, which they are all single mums, they convinced her to get rid of me and she can easily take over my housing association flat
We live in a 2 bedroom housing association flat
I am the sole occupant in the contract, however, my wife and my 7 year old son are added to the contract.
I am a registered disable and she is my career

Now, she is threatening me to do everything in her power no matter what to take over the flat. Her friends told her that can happen easily because of our son
She attended other council and also they filled her up with information in relation to what she can do

I attended the my housing association office and explained the situation to them
They referred me to CAB for more legal advice as we have a son

The CAB told me contradicting information as I was told by the housing officer

I feel I will end up homeless if there is nothing to do.

Please I need your kind help what to do as I am losing myself here.

I do apologise for the headache, but I dont really know what to do

Please help

charlieismydarling

Why is it relevant that her friends are single mums?
What makes you think that they have convinced her to try to take over the flat?

You say you are separating due to financial difficulties. Which is it?

Savvy_Sue

grendizer wrote: »

I attended the my housing association office and explained the situation to them
They referred me to CAB for more legal advice as we have a son

The CAB told me contradicting information as I was told by the housing officer

I am confused as to why the HA sent you to CAB, and you then got conflicting information.

What did the HA say about transferring your tenancy to your wife? And what did they say about offering you an alternative?

Would the property be suitable for you if you were living alone? Would you require special adaptations in a new property?

If your disability makes you 'vulnerable' (and that's a technical definition, the bar can be ridiculously high), then you have a better chance of obtaining a property through the HA or the local council.

pollyanna24

grendizer wrote: »

Greeting all,

I do apologise if this topic in the wrong place

Due to financial difficulties, I am in the process of separation and divorce with my wife.
Her friends, which they are all single mums, they convinced her to get rid of me and she can easily take over my housing association flat
We live in a 2 bedroom housing association flat
I am the sole occupant in the contract, however, my wife and my 7 year old son are added to the contract.
I am a registered disable and she is my career

Now, she is threatening me to do everything in her power no matter what to take over the flat. Her friends told her that can happen easily because of our son
She attended other council and also they filled her up with information in relation to what she can do

I attended the my housing association office and explained the situation to them
They referred me to CAB for more legal advice as we have a son

The CAB told me contradicting information as I was told by the housing officer

I feel I will end up homeless if there is nothing to do.

Please I need your kind help what to do as I am losing myself here.

I do apologise for the headache, but I dont really know what to do

Please help

Going to agree with a previous poster and ask what has the "single mums" got to do with anything? This is not going to help you in whatever answers you want. I'm a single mum and have managed to own my house, so.... "don't tar everyone with the same brush."

Good luck with keeping your flat.

onwards&upwards

grendizer wrote: »

Due to financial difficulties, I am in the process of separation and divorce with my wife.
Her friends, which they are all single mums, they convinced her to get rid of me and she can easily take over my housing association flat

What a load of rubbish. Adults with kids don’t end marriages because their mates egg them on to! Unless you’re married to a 15 year old which I hope you aren’t.

Didn’t even bother to read the rest after this!

Marvel1

Stay there, do NOT move out.

ska_lover

I think, if you are the sole occupant then how would she have the right to automatically take over the tenancy - but then you say your wife and child are added to the contract, so I am confused if the tenancy is in your name , or both

You don't say in much detail what advice the housing officer and the CAB told you? But (assuming here) you will be taking part of the parental responsibility for your son - it seems unfair that you should be the one who moves out - especially if your current home is adapted in anyway for your needs - is it?

Nevertheless, another flat is going to be needed to be found, whomever moves out and I think Savvy Sue makes some good points

The only bit of advice I can give you is that if you feel you are not being heard - approach your local councillor, and ask them to intervene, write emails and letters to assist

Fire_Fox

onwards&upwards wrote: »

What a load of rubbish. Adults with kids don’t end marriages because their mates egg them on to! Unless you’re married to a 15 year old which I hope you aren’t.

Didn’t even bother to read the rest after this!

I read that sentence as
"they convinced her to get rid of me [from the property] and she can easily take over my housing association flat"
rather than
"they convinced her to get rid of me [from the marriage] and she can easily take over my housing association flat"
It certainly isn't clear but the more literal interpretation makes sense if English is not Grendizer's first language.

Fire_Fox

Grendizer is English your second language?

Please do not take offence, your language skills are very good! I come from a family of teachers, and we had overseas students as lodgers and as dinner guests when I was a child.

If yes, do make full use of the Council or Housing Association's interpreter service. This may simply give you extra time to breathe and think about what is being said, instead of stressing and worrying and missing important details (completely natural in this situation).

OR Have a friend/ relative/ ex-coworker to accompany you to appointments OR communicate with the Council or Housing Association by e-mail, again to give you extra time to think about what is being said, OR as SkaLover suggested contact your Ward Councillor (listed on your Council's website).

Hope that helps.

kazwookie

Due to financial difficulties

Is this the only reason you are divorcing?


If so you would be better off putting up a SOA on the debt board and asking for help there.


For now I strongly suggest you do NOT move out of the property

grendizer

charlieismydarling wrote: »

Why is it relevant that her friends are single mums?
What makes you think that they have convinced her to try to take over the flat?

You say you are separating due to financial difficulties. Which is it?

Hi charlieismydarling,

Many thanks for your kind reply and questions.

We still living in the same flat but I try my best to ignore her as she is always trying to provoke me in any way.

About 2 years ago she met them in the play ground and she wasnt happy about their behaviour and how they were trating their husbands and how they managed to get a council flats. I told her not to mix with them as they will be bad influence.

Since I lost my job, things started going bad. In several occassions I saw her with them in the playground. She is also constantly with them over the phone.
Her ideas and attidude converted to the way she was against.
The story is long with details.