please advise me no judging please

tryingforabetterlife

Sorry I’ve not replied every one the children have had me crazy

My partner is going to be looking for work elsewhere but sticking this one out until something better comes up it is a global company but agency they don’t see fussed but he is ringing there head office first thing I think the issue is the previous payroll company well that’s excuse we’ve been given but not good enough
Thankyou every one for your kind words and advice it means a lot

gettingtheresometime

Where in the world are you? Nearest big town will suffice

tryingforabetterlife

Hi I’m not far from liverpool

CRANKY40

tryingforabetterlife wrote: »

Hi I’m not far from liverpool

Which side of the river? There's a place in Wallasey that does food bags and isn't food bank related so you don't need to be referred. There's also a lady in Birkenhad that does the same. Message me if you want info.

tryingforabetterlife

other side to that im down the lancs
im just speaking with a lady from the food bank shes going to call me back as the one that in my area thats usually on today isn't due to a overbooking where they usually go but there is one Wednesday and Friday in a different location

just calling my electric and gas supplier as its looking like that wont last either
my partners works have done the missing hours forms so all being well he will receive what hes owed friday but hes also involved head office as this is really unfair to leave a full agency of workers like this

i do have paypal dont use it much but i did try to do a food shop from it as i got told it comes out the bank a few days later but it didnt work

thanks for all the advice everyone

Lacemaker

tryingforabetterlife wrote: »

other side to that im down the lancs
im just speaking with a lady from the food bank shes going to call me back as the one that in my area thats usually on today isn't due to a overbooking where they usually go but there is one Wednesday and Friday in a different location

just calling my electric and gas supplier as its looking like that wont last either
my partners works have done the missing hours forms so all being well he will receive what hes owed friday but hes also involved head office as this is really unfair to leave a full agency of workers like this

i do have paypal dont use it much but i did try to do a food shop from it as i got told it comes out the bank a few days later but it didnt work

thanks for all the advice everyone

Hi,

Is there a RC Church near you ? I can try to contact either the S VP or Catenians who may be able to help , you don't need to be a member of the church or even Christian.

pickledonionspaceraider

How did you get OP, with your energy supplier and food bank?

I agree with Lacemaker - the RC church are really helpful - I was in your situation once upon a time and it does make you feel desperate - they helped me with a small box of groceries - I must admit i sat through a mass to get the box of food. Felt guilty for a while about that

also there is [B]a pay as you feel cafe and marke[/B]t near me that sells stuff given to them by supermarkets that is going out of date - there is one near you - well Liverpool anyway
http://www.realjunkfoodliverpool.org/
The real Junk Food Project - in my city these people are heros - no referral, you could call them and explain your situation and although it may not be a typical market day they may sort you out some stuff - they have done it for me before in my city

buildersdaughter

Food banks are very sympathetic to special needs - I know, having volunteered at one.
Also - how old are the children? If appropriate, talk to the school who will have emergency contacts.
If younger, try Health Visitor / Children's Centre.
You must have a paediatrician or specialist nurse who oversees the care of your child with ASD, so you can contact them.
All of these people will know who best to contact to help you. Your title question showed that you are afraid of being judged, but this is about doing your best for your kids, and is admirable.
Finally, please do not be afraid of contacting social services - I know from my work that people get very worried, but they are there to help.
These posts show you that we all need help sometimes, especially those who have to deal with kids with special needs, and the wicked zero hours / benefit systems. Hold your head high, do what you need to for your kids' sake and be proud. Then, some years down the line, I hope you can put back something, for someone who needs it, also with pride.
And special thanks to pickledonio...

pjcox2005

I've no experience or additional advice to that which has already been posted.


This may not be helpful but https://cookingonabootstrap.com/ is from a lady who always had to survive on minimal income so is cooking at low cost i believe. May not be right for your eldest child but may help the rest of your family meals. Apologies if it's no help at all. Other one longer term may be to go on the debt free forum to see if they can help with savings on your monthly expenditure etc to eek out wages a little further in future but I'm guessing there isn't much to cut.


Hope you managed to get through this with the help of the food banks.

snoopy58

Hi there, hope you don’t mind my offering my two pennyworth. Lots of lovely helpful advice for the short term but was thinking about long term. Your eldest (?) child is ASD. Have you looked into applying for PIP? Please ask your health visitor/GP/SEND co-ordinator at school/Citizens Advice. If you are eligible to claim on your child’s behalf this in turn may make you eligible for carers allowance (£66.15 per week). Please do consider this, it would make such a difference to you financially. Plus, you are already your child’s full time carer in addition to being his Mum. I hope this helps you longer term. Good luck with all you do.