Charged more than quoted price???

Aylesbury_Duck

fawwna wrote: »

I have it in writing from the shop "Quote - £50 - £60", so it wasn't verbal. I've already spent about £500 on this wedding including hen do, shoes, accomodation etc, still have to pay for transport TO the wedding (this is still not organised, the bride hasn't arranged transport for herself yet....), still have to get them a gift, still not sure if we have to pay for the hair/makeup. It might 'only' be an extra £10, but it's £10 that could go towards their gift, or the transport etc.
At this point I feel like we'll be asked to pay for our own wedding breakfast.

I'm going off-topic but this seems to be becoming common, with people expecting their friends to basically crowd-fund their big day. I used to attend weddings as a guest. Now it sometimes feels like I'm there as a donor.

powerful_Rogue

Aylesbury_Duck wrote: »

I'm going off-topic but this seems to be becoming common, with people expecting their friends to basically crowd-fund their big day. I used to attend weddings as a guest. Now it sometimes feels like I'm there as a donor.

I was just about to post something similar! Some of the weddings you hear about sound shocking. Getting married next year, money provided to bridesmaids to buy their own dresses (no set style/theme - a thank you for being a bridemaid). Lots of booze, music and food - All paid for by us. The way it should be in my opinion.

fawwna

Aylesbury_Duck wrote: »

I'm going off-topic but this seems to be becoming common, with people expecting their friends to basically crowd-fund their big day. I used to attend weddings as a guest. Now it sometimes feels like I'm there as a donor.

Absolutely. I understand it's a big expense, but it's not anyone else's duty to pay for it for you. Due to the expense of arranging a wedding, I feel like I will have to choose between funding a wedding for me and my partner, or having IVF (reproductively challenged :wave:), I wonder if anyone will help me foot the bill for that. :laugh:

fawwna

powerful_Rogue wrote: »

I was just about to post something similar! Some of the weddings you hear about sound shocking. Getting married next year, money provided to bridesmaids to buy their own dresses (no set style/theme - a thank you for being a bridemaid). Lots of booze, music and food - All paid for by us. The way it should be in my opinion.

I've learned a lot from going to people's weddings and seeing how stressed out they (and their wedding party are), and its that a wedding like the above is perfect.

powerful_Rogue

fawwna wrote: »

I've learned a lot from going to people's weddings and seeing how stressed out they (and their wedding party are), and its that a wedding like the above is perfect.

That's the first thing we agreed on, no stress! Weddings should be fun for everyone, including the bride and groom!
We said the wedding bit is the boring bit, so lets just get that out the way and have a bloomin big party afterwards! No table plans here, just a few food trucks for people to go and get their free food from and sit with who they want. Oh, and enough as they can drink to get them dancing later!


Have you spoken to your friend about this? Does she know about the IVF and how expensive that can be?

fawwna

powerful_Rogue wrote: »

That's the first thing we agreed on, no stress! Weddings should be fun for everyone, including the bride and groom!
We said the wedding bit is the boring bit, so lets just get that out the way and have a bloomin big party afterwards! No table plans here, just a few food trucks for people to go and get their free food from and sit with who they want. Oh, and enough as they can drink to get them dancing later!


Have you spoken to your friend about this? Does she know about the IVF and how expensive that can be?

Sounds amazing!

Apologies, I worded it incorrectly above, I meant when I eventually want to get married, I feel like I'd have to choose between a wedding and IVF. Having said that, I don't think anyone is aware. I would have to have donor eggs as well, which I believe my CCG don't fund so have to pay for that myself which is a few grand. I think this is why the extra money on the bridesmaid dress has bothered me so much, especially having already spent so much on everything else (and it's not even my wedding!)

lincroft1710

If money is a problem there is nothing to stop you having a simple inexpensive registry office ceremony with just a few close friends and family present.

What I do find strange is the bride buying bridesmaids' dresses that don't fit.

PS is your friend a "bridezilla"

powerful_Rogue

fawwna wrote: »

Sounds amazing!

Apologies, I worded it incorrectly above, I meant when I eventually want to get married, I feel like I'd have to choose between a wedding and IVF. Having said that, I don't think anyone is aware. I would have to have donor eggs as well, which I believe my CCG don't fund so have to pay for that myself which is a few grand. I think this is why the extra money on the bridesmaid dress has bothered me so much, especially having already spent so much on everything else (and it's not even my wedding!)

Ah, gotcha!
Suppose it all depends whether your friend is a Bridezilla at the moment as to whether you approach her and speak to her about the extra costs you have incurred.

fawwna

lincroft1710 wrote: »

If money is a problem there is nothing to stop you having a simple inexpensive registry office ceremony with just a few close friends and family present.

What I do find strange is the bride buying bridesmaids' dresses that don't fit.

PS is your friend a "bridezilla"

Very true!

WELL, the dresses were bought over a year ago. 4 bridesmaids, 3 have gained a little weight, 1 has lost 2 stone so none of us fit. They're high street dresses too, so they all have zip closures and no room for taking any of the material out to add some extra width.
She's not a bridezilla at all, she's just incredibly disorganised this close to the big day. 4 days to go and we've only just decided how we're all getting to the venue. Am I having my hair done or doing it myself? My makeup? Are we having a rehearsal? How/when/with who are we walking down the aisle? Are we getting up for the first dance? I haven't the foggiest!

lincroft1710

fawwna wrote: »

Very true!

WELL, the dresses were bought over a year ago. 4 bridesmaids, 3 have gained a little weight, 1 has lost 2 stone so none of us fit. They're high street dresses too, so they all have zip closures and no room for taking any of the material out to add some extra width.

Not sure who is to blame, bride who bought dresses too early (or should have bought them a little bigger), or bridesmaids who didn't watch their weight (which unfortunately has cost them financially)

Massive respect for the one who lost 2 stones!