Ex owes me money, can I withold his bike?

unforeseen

I have it in writing (text) that he owes me the money

is this a text from him stating that he owes you or a text from you asserting that he owes you?

maman

I can understand how you feel OP but take the moral high ground, draw a line and move on.

Robisere

Is there any way that you can ask his parents to have someone collect the bike and his belongings before his release?

That way you would not have the possible option of seeing him again. As for the £300: I join others here in saying, forget it, move on. You could write to him in prison and say that you are willing to forget the debt if he never approaches or contacts you again. But type the letter and keep a copy, with a footnote saying that you have a File Copy.

ska_lover

Robisere wrote: »

Is there any way that you can ask his parents to have someone collect the bike and his belongings before his release?

That way you would not have the possible option of seeing him again. As for the £300: I join others here in saying, forget it, move on. You could write to him in prison and say that you are willing to forget the debt if he never approaches or contacts you again. But type the letter and keep a copy, with a footnote saying that you have a File Copy.

That is exactly what I would do. This is great advice

Chapter24

FWIW I would sell it!

for £300

If he asks where it is, you don't know.

Robisere

Chapter24 wrote: »

FWIW I would sell it!

for £300

If he asks where it is, you don't know.

And if he sees it being ridden, contacts the new owner, that is theft. It is not hers to sell.
Please be aware that this forum is supposed to give those asking for advice and help, the correct advice and help. Not advising action which would land them in more trouble, with the possibility of a conviction for theft.

Chapter24

Robisere wrote: »

And if he sees it being ridden, contacts the new owner, that is theft. It is not hers to sell.
Please be aware that this forum is supposed to give those asking for advice and help, the correct advice and help. Not advising action which would land them in more trouble, with the possibility of a conviction for theft.

it was slightly tongue in cheek.
sometimes you've gotta be a bit wily.

also with him being violent, I wouldn't have him back near the house, at all. with his parents or not.

Why should she lose £300? Put the boot on the other foot, if she owed him £300 would people be advising that she should just get away with owing someone money?

maman

Chapter24 wrote: »

Why should she lose £300? Put the boot on the other foot, if she owed him £300 would people be advising that she should just get away with owing someone money?

If the ex came on here asking whether he should pay her back the £300 then, of course, most us would advise that he does the decent thing and pays up. But that's not where we are. This ex sounds like trouble so the sooner she cuts her losses and puts some distance between hem and herself the better,

Prolonging things by being 'wily' (particularly when the wiliness is illegal) isn't going to help at all IMO.

belfastgirl23

Can I just ask a genuine question. If the OP paid for it online in her name, how is it not hers? Leaving aside the two other issues - ie the morality of claiming ownership and the OP’s safety if she withholds it - surely if she paid for it, then legally she owns it? Is there something I’m missing? I’ve always refused to organise buying bigger items for DH, not because I think he’d up and run off with my money but because I was worried if there were any issues with the item being stolen or needing to return it I’d get saddled with the paperwork cos I was the legal owner??

DigForVictory

Robisere wrote: »

Is there any way that you can ask his parents to have someone collect the bike and his belongings before his release?

That way you would not have the possible option of seeing him again. As for the £300: I join others here in saying, forget it, move on. You could write to him in prison and say that you are willing to forget the debt if he never approaches or contacts you again. But type the letter and keep a copy, with a footnote saying that you have a File Copy.

^^^^ This. All the way.