New Bloke living in Family home.

onwards&upwards

Pollycat wrote: »

She must have got pregnant almost as soon as she kicked you out.


+1 to getting legal advice.

Or it’s actually the OP’s child.

Marvel1

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Or it’s actually the OP’s child.

It's not the OP's

DEJECTEDDAD wrote: »

they now have a 2 month old baby together.

onwards&upwards

Marvel1 wrote: »

It's not the OP's

That’s what he’s saying, yes.

With those timings though, can he be certain?

DEJECTEDDAD

100% not mine :j
He's an unemployed pro golfer so cant really meet her and new babies financial needs.

74jax

Why would you pay spousal maintenance. Is this in the UK?

I'm not sure why someone unemployed can't help with a baby? He could have savings for financial assistance, income from shares etc and surely if he isn't working can offer a load of daily practical help.

I think you need to take the emotional side of of this out.

Move back in if you wish, but remember it may have been your family home growing up but you signed half over. It is now your kids family home and they are living in it. Consider how it will effect them with you moving in during this situation.

You only financial support the 3 children which are yours. In no way the 4th. Do the children want to live with you or the mother?

Pollycat

DEJECTEDDAD wrote: »

Yes! Instant pregnancy. Could save me a packet in spousal support but it's proving he is there. - Seen solicitor but not hearing what I want ie chance of my uniquely located house back! Nothing agreed yet she wants it all obviously.

Do you really mean 'spousal support' or do you mean child maintenance?
If you're not the child's Father you wouldn't pay maintenance for it - but you would for your 3 kids.
Or is she saying the child is yours?
Spousal maintenance is pretty rare nowadays.

I'm finding reference to the size of the house confusing:

DEJECTEDDAD wrote: »

Hi. Was Kicked out of family home last October by wife who remained in there with our 3 kids. I Moved in with sister.
New fella has moved in (which she denies) and they now have a 2 month old baby together.
She wants to keep home for her 'needs' as a single mum ie 4 or 5 bed house. I want it back as it was my childhood home and to buy her out.
She is now less capable of meeting her own needs with new baby, and insists has no plans to be with new bloke who on paper lives with his parents. so obviously I'm expected to meet these extra needs she has generated? or just for those of my 3 which could have been a 3 bedroom house.
What should he pay now? I'm still paying half mortgage.

Does the house you bought from your parents have 3, 4 or 5 bedrooms?

Ozzuk

I'd move back in, set up cameras as a deterrent/record conversations, be extremely nice to her especially in front of new partner. They'll soon get sick of it.


After that long a relationship the starting point will likely be 50/50 in any split, but will weight in her favour if she is having the kids.

DEJECTEDDAD

The children want to be in the house mainly, with whoever. It has 4 beds.
She could get a house with him but she claims is remaining a single mum. He wouldn't stay there if I moved back.

Pollycat

DEJECTEDDAD wrote: »

The children want to be in the house mainly, with whoever. It has 4 beds.
She could get a house with him but she claims is remaining a single mum. He wouldn't stay there if I moved back.

Are you saying she expects you to buy a larger house for her, your joint 3 kids and this new baby?

Are you saying if it was just you and your joint 3 kids, you'd downsize to a 3 bedroom house?

As before, I'm finding the issue of bedrooms confusing.

A number of posters have suggested you seek legal advice?
Have you done this or are you planning to do it?

maman

Pollycat wrote: »

Are you saying she expects you to buy a larger house for her, your joint 3 kids and this new baby?

Are you saying if it was just you and your joint 3 kids, you'd downsize to a 3 bedroom house?

As before, I'm finding the issue of bedrooms confusing.

A number of posters have suggested you seek legal advice?
Have you done this or are you planning to do it?

AFAIK it's the 4 bed family home that OP bought from his parents so it's his former family home. That's why he wants to buy out his ex to keep his original family home. It suits the ex to stay in this large house especially as she now has an extra child so she doesn't want to move out. Although the ex would get a decent amount of money if he did buy her out she doesn't have much of an income (from herself or the new bloke) to buy a new place.

I think OP has a solicitor but he isn't hearing what he wants i.e. a way of keeping his family home.

That's my understanding.