Compassionate leave??

Ja7188

Hi everyone
Thanks for your replies. I feel scared to ask fot time off from this employer as they are really strict about things. A colleuge asked for annual leave for 1 day a week in advance for family issues and it was denied so really not expecting any annual leave.

If you're genuinely scared to ask for time off to spend with a dying parent, it says a lot about your work situation - obviously they may have to refuse some or part of the request due to cover being needed but you should absolutely not have to be worried about asking.

I think the hardest thing is just not knowing when or really what's going to happen and that's what's making me want to be with him and I don't fèel I can face work. I'll try seeng if my line manager is in over the weekend. Thanks all

Yes, appreciate that it's hard - I speak from personal experience. My advice would be as upfront as possible about the situation and hopefully your employer will be sympathetic as far as possible.

trailingspouse

If you need to give 4 weeks' notice of holiday, give that notice RIGHT NOW, and take at least a week off if you can.


If your father is still with you, you will have a week to spend with him before the end. If he has sadly passed away by then, you'll have a week in which to grieve properly.


You have my sympathy.

Huggy_Bear

sorry your dad is unwell
My mum was in and out of hospital for a few months before she passed away. I live much closer than you state so visiting was easier. My boss at the time was utterly fantastic and gave me time off work even at very short notice. I shall be ever grateful as it meant I did not have to worry about work during the last few weeks of my mums life.


I would definately have a conversation with HR and your manager. Be unfront and say the worry is making you unwell.



If can take unpaid leave, do it, be with your Dad.


After my mum died I was signed off work for a considerable amount of time on paid sick leave. I had never take sick leave before, except the odd day, but the experience effected my ability to work. I have zero regrets taking time off, I would normally have worried about letting people down etc but all that went out of the window.


Best wishes and it might help to write down what you need to say to your manager before you speak to them.

beckysbobbles1

I'm so sorry you have this added stress to deal with. As others have said technically it seems like you have no entitlement however that doesn't mean you can't ask.


I haven't read all of the replies and this might be frowned upon by some but you could possibly go to your doctors and ask to be signed off. I'm sure you are suffering from some sort of stress due to this circumstances.

Blatchford

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

I haven't read all of the replies and this might be frowned upon by some but you could possibly go to your doctors and ask to be signed off. I'm sure you are suffering from some sort of stress due to this circumstances.

It isn't really as though there were too many replies to read, is it? If you'd read the replies you'd know that (a) this was suggested as a possibility and (b) it was pointed out that there are also consequences to doing this that need to be considered. It's horrible for anyone to be in this situation, but everyone eventually is one way or another. There's no entitlement to paid (or unpaid) time off, and taking it anyway can have consequences.