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LilElvis

Hi autumnleaves. Sorry to hear that you're going to have to go down the IVF route - it's an emotionally gruelling and financially costly process with, sadly, no guarantee of success. Realistically the only thing you can save any money on is shaving maybe a couple of hundred off the cost of the drugs and getting the HIV testing done for free through a sexual health clinic. Once you add in the initial consultation and testing the bill is more likely to be £8 - £8.5k and more if you go to one of the London clinics. The surgical sperm retrieval and ICSI alone will be £3k+. Treatment overseas is often cheaper but may not be in your case as the surgical sperm retrieval will require a separate trip, though possibly worth researching, especially as some clinics are associated with ones in this country for the monitoring stages. Good luck with your journey - we were blessed with our daughter nine years ago thanks to IVF so I know what a big step you are taking.

Mojisola

autumnleaves wrote: »

I'm nearly 36 and never had my own child. My husband has kids from a previous marriage and since had the snip - before we met.

I'm thinking in order for us to be able to try for a baby, our best bet is probably going to be IVF, taking eggs and sperm from both of us.

I believe we're going to need around £7-8k to try for IVF

With a low success rate of under 25%, don't bank on only needing one go.

BAFE

They say that you need to budget for 3 rounds of IVF to get a favourable result. Don't forget you'll need to pay for medication too, which will likely cost the same price as the IVF (unless you can persuade your GP to prescribe it for you).

Some London clinics offer a deal whereby you pay upfront for 3 sessions and you get a big reduction in price. So, if you succeed in the first attempt you'll be out of pocket and if you succeed in the 3rd attempt you'll have had a big discount.

Also look at egg sharing schemes whereby you agree to share your eggs and you get your IVF for free.

Also look for treatment abroad.

Time IS NOT on your side, as i'm sure you're aware.

LilElvis

BAFE wrote: »

They say that you need to budget for 3 rounds of IVF to get a favourable result. Don't forget you'll need to pay for medication too, which will likely cost the same price as the IVF (unless you can persuade your GP to prescribe it for you).

Some London clinics offer a deal whereby you pay upfront for 3 sessions and you get a big reduction in price. So, if you succeed in the first attempt you'll be out of pocket and if you succeed in the 3rd attempt you'll have had a big discount.

Also look at egg sharing schemes whereby you agree to share your eggs and you get your IVF for free.

Also look for treatment abroad.

Time IS NOT on your side, as i'm sure you're aware.

The prices stated in my earlier post included the costs of the drugs - even with a private prescription they are unlikely to exceed £1500 and certainly nowhere near the cost of treatment.

The OP is nearly 36 - and this is the cut off age for egg sharing/ donation so this would not be an option.

Nicki

Do you have known fertility issues other than being a little older than optimum? If not. I’d possibly go down the route of sperm retrieval and IUI rather than IVF at least initially as this will be considerably cheaper.

HampshireH

OP if you have saved just over £1k since last October (thats about £100 a month) has your partner saved anything at all?

I wish you well

Claddagh_Noir

autumnleaves wrote: »

No, I don't have any known issues. The only fertility issue with either of us, is that snip he had.



I think what you suggest will be the route I explore further.

For those asking about what DH has saved, he's still not 100% on board with all this, as I say, he has kids already. Just hoping if I can show we can afford it, it won't be a problem.

I wish you well with whatever path you take. I sounds that DH has already made up his mind by having the snip in the first place.

gettingtheresometime

Claddagh_Noir wrote: »

I wish you well with whatever path you take. I sounds that DH has already made up his mind by having the snip in the first place.

In fairness I think the snip might have been done prior to him meeting the OP.


I didn't want to take the thread off at a tangent but it did strike me that the OP needs to get her husband on board, which at the moment it doesn't sound he is - having seen two couples go through IVF, the process is emotionally stressful when you've got each other for support but it must be doubly difficult when one is wavering.

Claddagh_Noir

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

In fairness I think the snip might have been done prior to him meeting the OP.

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I gathered as much. It would have been highly disrespectful of him doing it while in this relationship without the OP knowing. OP, did he mention he had the snip when in the early stages of the partnership?

andycol

Getting to know about infertility can affect your self-confidence. There are many couples who are trying for months but the results are coming negative. No doubt, infertility affects the patient both physically and mentally. At the time I was hoping to get some advice and encouragement through this forum. I was diagnosed on blocked in Feb 2016 (age 30+) with 3 fibroid removal surgeries. I faced 1 cyst removal and 1 polyps removal surgery..Not a pleasant experience..I had done 1 Clomid cycle IUI which ended with chemical bfp. 2 cycles of IVF with Day 3 embryos failed..That time I used own eggs. Another antagonist cycle got cancelled due to poor response - Only 1 dominating follicle. 2nd cycle on microflare protocol retrieved 2 eggs but only 1 grow to Day 3. 3rd cycle on mini-ivf protocol with no egg retrieved.. Feeling too discouraged to go on with the place, we switched the clinics.. I feel sorrow we didn't move down this way much earlier. But were going through the IVF cycles with emotional and financial distress..We went abroad mainly for more reasonable prices ..One should never give up, as the fertility road is usually not without milestones..Sometimes sharing thoughts and feeling with the person who is going through the exact situation will help you even more. It will tell you that you are not alone and you can learn from other’s experience. Praying for you.