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Joewasherein2019 wrote: »

I have no idea why they got funny with us.

One invests time/effort into building a relationship with neighbours. Most of the time the only thing you have in common is your address. Once you announce you're leaving there's no need for them to continue to be civil as your only link to them will be severed soon.

It's because they were neighbours, not friends.

As a neighbour, I don't care about you, your family, your house, your new house, your aspirations and dreams. All I want is to retain a relationship with you so you don't think you can take the mick over things like walls, fences, access, parking, noise, etc. By maintaining a form of "presence" over time one asserts one's existence and hopefully minimises poor neighbours stepping out of line.

phoebe1989seb

Joewasherein2019 wrote: »

Ah it makes sense now.

I see the point.

When we sold our first semi we bought it for
178k sold it for 235k.

However when we told both sides of neighbours who we got along with just fine we was upsizing they got really funny with us for a few weeks before the move.

Anyone else experienced this?

I have no idea why they got funny with us. We had the house
5 years done it up and sold it the first one.

At our last house (purchased in 2014, sold 2018), we had very friendly neighbours who brought round new home cards, bottles of prosecco and introduced themselves on our arrival. The first Christmas we were invited to a party for a small group of neighbours - I should say this was in the west Midlands, we had relocated from the south coast of England and this was a 'lane' of all detached, mostly period properties in an edge of city village-y location - and were made to feel most welcome.

Throughout our three/four years there a small group of close neighbours including ourselves exchanged Christmas cards, had BBQs, parties etc.

When we announced we were selling up, there was a noticeable cooling off and at Christmas - three months after we first marketed our house we received no cards, even though we still gave them out......

On the subject of neighbours, we only have one in close proximity that resides in their property (the other nearest house is a large mansion used for Airbnb etc) and they have ignored us since we went round to introduce ourselves

A few years back when we were looking to upsize from a three bedroom terraced house (after one of our neighbours gave me the shock of my life falling down the stairs and I was the one who found her :eek:) we had our hearts set on another, larger terrace (five beds). When that purchase fell through we ended up buying a four bed detached - it had never been our intention to buy a detached, but once we had we never wanted another terraced house. Since then we've owned two semis - although not typical semis (one was built as a six bed detached then infilled post war, the other a sprawling five bed village house) - and three detached, ranging from 2 - 6 beds.......

Joewasherein2019

You would think neighbours would be
More happy and genuine.

They all want to talk about when you’ve got construction ongoing and want to come around and see it after.

How many do you think go online and view your property
On right move when it’s up etc when for sale goes up board.
Gossip going around close.

Is there also a sense of bettering yourself involved etc perhaps they jealous and can’t afford to move?

Our next move will be to an area with no neighbours very nosey.

However we always try to give our best impression.

However the ones attached to us always asking us if we going to get driveway done, I think perhaps she feels we let down the close?

RelievedSheff

Neighbours are a funny thing. When we moved into our last house the neighbours had all lived there long term so we were always the outsiders, even after 12 years!

At the new house everyone has moved in at similar times to each other with it being new build. The neighbourhood has a completely different very friendly atmosphere in comparison.