Being taken to court Child not going to school

chesky

Unfortunately the OP's posts are very badly written, so it's unclear what he's talking about. He's changed from writing as the mother to writing as the friend of the mother, but in doing so he should have used the words 'mother' did this or 'daughter' did this, instead of the word 'she' so we're not clear about who did what.

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This is something I discovered the hard way, through experience. If you can get a GP letter saying your child is experiencing school anxiety, everyone has to take it more seriously and you will be given time to discover what the problem is. Do the research, make a list of things that have happened, behaviours the girl has shown and ask the GP if they will write a letter. I had to visit three times to get this letter. I explained to the GP what I had tried to achieve with the school but the school weren't very helpful. He actually apologised to me. He asked the school to be more helpful in his letter (and with the one written the next year). They weren't even then. Not all schools are, unfortunately. My son had been diagnosed with ASD though. But it didn't change how the school reacted. I was an ineffective parent. I even had one SENCO say I was making my son anxious, putting words into his mouth. He's now in a specialist school, but it took a long while to get there.

Believe you me, the child DOES care, very much, probably blaming herself but sees daily she is helpless. No one is listening, just telling her what she should be doing. Been there.

I'm afraid CAHMs have long waiting lists and will only do anything for children with serious disorders. Even then its debatable. Try MIND, find the office for your local area and ask if they have any child counsellors available. I paid £25 a week for my son to have counselling, being willing to pay this kind of money seemed to jump him up the wait queue (not fair but I was desperate, no matter what I had to cut back on, I had to have some way of helping my son). I've also just started him with some Reiki therapy and although we were both sceptical, there does seem to be some easing of his anxiety and he's sleeping more easily.

Meanwhile, do some research, if you haven't already, on school anxiety. she needs some proper assessments to see if there is a special need involved like ADHD or ASD. Do some research, see if any of the things talked about are things she does. Also look up masking. My son is an expert at this.