relationship help please

fairmorn308

Right i was going with this girl for a wee while and i really like here, everything was going gr8 and I has to go back offshore 2 weeks ago and on the night before going it was just amazing spending time wi her.

Now on sataurday night she ends it saying that she isnt ready for a relationship etc etc But that was after someone started !!!!!!!!ting and saying i was texting another girl etc. Which i wasnt.

Ok and the 2 weeks away for me was really hard and i still couldnt get a straight answer and i was being a bit of a !!!!!! head about it all.

She asked me for help as she was a bit skint this month etc so i took home duty free fags and leant her some money and i am still getting treated like !!!!. I cant get a straight answer out of her and i know am that close to loosing her completely and dont no what to do. Everytime i text i get a short and sharp answer back.

Am about to crack and dont no what to do.

HELP????????

ailuro2

It's not meant to be this complicated at the start.:eek:

Forget it, move on, and if it's meant to be then you'll end up bumping into each other, without interference from other folks.;)

Life's hard enough being offshore for a fortnight at a time without worrying about what's going on back on dry land.:beer:

fairmorn308

She is mad but wont tell me why. i know i should jut leave things but i wanted to sort things out to why she is mad etc.

I seriously dont no nemore

Chollita

Simple answer, learned through experience - if someone doesn't treat you right, don't be afraid to end it out of fear of being alone. That is far better than being with someone who messes you around.

noonesperfect

I think the others are right fairmorn308, it's time to cut loose from this girl. Let her go.

Find a nice lassie who doesnt mess you around, you sound like a OK guy being taken for a bit of a ride.....

paddy's_mum

So she ended the relationship but then has the bare faced cheek to ask you to bring her duty free and lend her some money - you are having us on, aren't you?

Whatever you feel about this girl, however intensely you think you love/adore/desire her, it will be nothing compared to the hurts she will deal you in months and years to come if you continue the relationship. For heaven's sake, she can't even be pleasant to you in 'exchange' for your help.

You say that you are frightened of losing her - in my view, losing her would be the best bit of luck you could possibly have. She can't even be civil to you. Where do you think such behaviour is likely to end - happy ever after?

My advice would be to go talk to a mature and adult woman that you trust - Mum, aunty - the ladies on here, if that would help. Don't decide that something about you is so awful that you'll never find another girl to love. Don't be this one's doormat - you are worth more than that and she most definitely doesn't deserve a generous and affectionate guy like you!!

Moominmamma

Exactly what Paddy's Mum said!!

Angel777

I think you have had a lucky escape.

It doesnt sound like she is interested and you can therefore do much better ie find someone who genuinely wants to be with you.

Just move on and concentrate on the future.

Good luck