How do people cope while unwell?

UKTigerlily

onwards&upwards wrote: »

That’s insane, and it’s actually quite arrogant. If you had a big heart attack tomorrow and died because you’d ignored warning signs, do you really think any of the stuff tha5 was keeping you so busy would remotely matter? Would anybody die or anything truly crucial not get done?

Go to a doctor immediately, a walk in centre can often do an ECG.

I agree with the above advice 100%. One of my Grandparents kept getting chest pains and putting it off, finally being diagnosed with Angina before collapsing & dying not long after. Please go to be checked out now x

pmduk

As a single person I cope, because I have to. I've several medical conditions and, living alone there is nobody else to do the shopping, housework etc. If I can't go out, I go without.

elsien

bobwilson wrote: »

Charming. I didn't say 'a cold is a reason to visit a doctor', I was talking about employers requiring a doctor's 'sick note', but I'm sure you already knew that. That's what people love about you- your attention to detail. :rotfl:

With regards to the rest of your comments about self employed having insurance & charity, congrats on your open minded view of peoples' personal situations.

You can self cert for 7 days. Anything any less never than that and you probably should be seeing a doctor anyway.
If I'm so unwell I can't get to work, then I'm usually not fussed about eating anyway so would usually get by on some fruit or a bowl of cereal, not anything that needs cooking. If I can only stagger from bed to bathroom then I'd try to contact friends/family to have the dog for a bit.
It's pretty unlikely that the emergencies you mention when you were so wiped out you couldn't use a phone or get to the door.

Out of interest, I keep seeing walk in centres mentioned. I live in a large town and they don't exist hereabouts - are they just a big city thing? I suspect that there are more places that don't have them than do.

Prothet_of_Doom

bobwilson wrote: »

How do self employed people cope? Their business must go to flop.

How do single mothers or fathers cope?

How do single people cope?

I don't get it, what am I missing?

Life can be rubbish without support. My wife became ill in 2006 with ME(Chronic Fatigue). It was so bad that she had to give up work. For the first year it was as much as she could do, to wake up the kids (in Secondary school at the time), point them towards breakfast and wave them off, all the while, being dizzy. Then back to bed for a couple of hours, and then a bath, and then a rest before she could get dressed, then a rest once she was dressed.

On a good day she could drive to the shops and buy food. but that would mean 3 days when she couldn't do anything.

She made sure that when the kids got home she was dressed, and there was a proper tea for them.

She still can't work even part time. But won't claim benefits (I refuse to fall out over this, but I question what she'd do if she were single) because imagine that an investigator filmed you dancing at a wedding one day, but didn't film you the following 3 days unable to do anything at all. Her concern has always been that the stress of applying would make her worse.

So your Cold. Yes it's !!!!, but imagine, having all your independence taken away permanently and not temporarily


But you asked about the self employed. We don't get paid. The client gets !!!!ed off and thinks we are making excuses.

Single parents? Life is really hard without support.

Single people? They order food on just eat?:rotfl:

Blackpool_Saver

The vile posts on here are why I hate most people

Prothet_of_Doom

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

The vile posts on here are why I hate most people

That's sad. I like most people. I try to find something about them to like.

Blackpool_Saver

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

That's sad. I like most people. I try to find something about them to like.

I expect people to be like me, I would do anything for anyone. I care, and I am considerate. I am usually disappointed by their total lack of empathy. Just like the people on this post, typical of most people today.

MovingForwards

OP has asked how we cope and many of us have said.

Today has been a huge struggle to walk, get dressed, drive to work get to my desk and do it all in reverse when I finished work. I then had to try and get into a suit, get to the bus and commute into town for an interview, doing it all in reverse to get home, contend with stairs for the flat and make it to the sofa while necking prescription painkillers like they are going out of fashion. My walking stick isn't much help.

What's the alternative? Don't go to work and so dont get paid as I'm temping? Don't go to the interview for a permanent job?

It's not a life while like this, but the alternative is give up, don't work and claim PIP and other benefits?

So please, don't say there is a lack of understanding, we cannot hold people's hand and if OP wanted different answers maybe he could have asked his question differently.

lessonlearned

Well I can't say I noticed anyone being vile.

The Op asked for pointers on how people cope and for the most that is what the answers have been about. Yes some of them have been a bit blunt but the reality is if you live alone and have no outside help then you have to find a way.

If you are self employed then you can't always take time off work and if you have young children then it's even more imperative that you find a way to manage because you do still have to care for them, especially if you are a single parent.

I think it's about trying to be prepared, just in case. At the very least always keeping a few days of food in the house and maybe some simple OTC meds such as paracetamol, ibruprofen, decongestants, cough medicines etc