Day in the Life of Bob - people who offer unwanted advice

Fosterdog

bobwilson wrote: »

What you're describing is a combination of ignorance & arrogance. Maybe it's just the culture lots of men have where you live? I don't know men where I live who would behave that bad!

Men all around the world behave like this, the current common term for it is mansplaining, look it up.

By the way you disagreeing with K80 and saying men you know/where you live wouldn't do that is the exact ignorance and arrogance that leads to "mansplaining" and is also doing the exact dismissal of another persons experiences (who has far more experience in the area than you do) that you started this entire thread to complain about.

Pot meet kettle

Gavin83

It certainly does exist but to be fair it isn't exclusively a male to female issue, women do the same thing in reverse. Try being a stay at home dad for example and not getting advice on how to parent from women. The term womansplaining also exists for this situation.

There are subjects where men assume they know more than women and similarly there are subjects where women assume they know more than men. Often they'll likely be correct but the problems occur when they're not. Assumption is a dangerous thing.

Probably best all round for people to hold back on the non requested advice. Sadly this is often easier said than done.

Pennywise

Some of the "advice" given about tax on internet forums is absolutely crazy. You get someone coming on asking a question and several posters can give totally wrong answers, some even arguing with professional tax advisors. Mumsnet is ridiculously bad for it, not just for tax, but also in their legal and employment forums too. So many people just seem to be attention seekers and "answering" questions just to make themselves look important but unwittingly spouting rubbish.

hollydays

Gavin83 wrote: »

It certainly does exist but to be fair it isn't exclusively a male to female issue, women do the same thing in reverse. Try being a stay at home dad for example and not getting advice on how to parent from women. The term womansplaining also exists for this situation.

There are subjects where men assume they know more than women and similarly there are subjects where women assume they know more than men. Often they'll likely be correct but the problems occur when they're not. Assumption is a dangerous thing.

Probably best all round for people to hold back on the non requested advice. Sadly this is often easier said than done.

I have to say, the times I've been mansplained, the information has been irrelevant, and being correct is a part of the issue.It's the kind of person who believes he has a sense of entitlement.
One of the last times it happened , a man in a group I was in, said he needed to" bring down the hammer" as there was too much chatter.
I believe he'd been in a working environment where he believed he was superior to " girls" .

Tofu_eater

Lots of people are dumb.
Once you learn to realise that you'll find it all much easier.
People don't even know where they are half the time!
They don't even know the roads where they live
I can't believe the number of times I've been given the wrong directions by people and sent the wrong way or they don't know where stuff is in their own locality where they live

unholyangel

bobwilson wrote: »

But presumably men would accept that you have more experience in the field rather than accusing you of "not listening" when you try to explain it to them?

No. They don't always accept it.

The situation of them arguing over womens bodily functions with a woman is only second to the absurdity of some of the imaginings I've heard over the years. Can't go into detail here but whats more surprising is that these were people with degrees, some of whom are actually paid considerable sums to make complex & important decisions.

Gavin83 wrote: »

It certainly does exist but to be fair it isn't exclusively a male to female issue, women do the same thing in reverse. Try being a stay at home dad for example and not getting advice on how to parent from women. The term womansplaining also exists for this situation.

I've found parents typically do that with other parents generally rather than gender specific. Just as partners usually share what they've found works - its a show of empathy usually.

In fact, I believe its one of the most common complaints by new mothers - that everyone offers you advice and tells you what you're doing wrong. Even complete strangers.