Currently in a houseshare...all but one of my housemates want to move elsewhere

endrius

I live in a houseshare with three friends. It's getting to the point where our contract will soon be up for renewal. Three of us have all agreed we want to find another, cheaper place (as the current place we have we are paying a lot for and don't use all the rooms) but one housemate is very adamant that they don't want to move.

How should we deal with the situation? Obviously it's going to cause conflict if we're not all happy. We all really like each other, get on extremely well, and we have a very good relationship so no one wants to upset anyone else and it makes all this very difficult.

The three of us who want to move have considered moving into a three bed now, as we have found some amazing places which could save us hundreds each per month. The three-beds are too good to ignore and we are starting to genuinely consider it, BUT, we don't want to upset the fourth person. It's nothing personal - we just want to save money - but obviously it's going to come across very badly to the fourth person as they will probably feel ganged up on and will mean they will be forced to move regardless, and it means we will all probably lose a friend.

What should we do about this? Any advice or anyone been in a similar situation?

Mojisola

endrius wrote: »

I live in a houseshare with three friends. It's getting to the point where our contract will soon be up for renewal. Three of us have all agreed we want to find another, cheaper place (as the current place we have we are paying a lot for and don't use all the rooms) but one housemate is very adamant that they don't want to move.

What should we do about this?

So three of you are worried about upsetting one person by moving and saving yourselves money but that person doesn't mind the rest of you being worse off by staying because that's what he/she wants?

If you three give in to his/her demands, how long will the relationship stay good - you're all going to resent losing your chance to move somewhere better!

Exodi

Bin him off, he clearly has no regard for your interests.

endrius

Thats a good point actually. I suppose it is quite selfish of them to try and force three of us to stay in a house we don't want to be in. It's not like we'd want to downgrade and start living in a slum, we just don't see the point in paying for a five bed house with three reception rooms when we use only four of the bedrooms and one of the reception rooms.

suejb2

Democratic by the sound of it not ganging up. If the fourth wants to keep the household together let this fourth pay to do so!

Grab your chance of a better cheaper place and move.

gettingtheresometime

Would it be possible for the friend who wants to stay (lets call them X) to find replacements for those that want to leave?


Would it be easy for X to do so?


What are the reasons for wanting to stay?

System

What's the reason for him/her to stay?

theoretica

Can you try to help the person who wants to stay find other housemates?
Seems like they need a deadline to let you know firmly if you are all looking for a 4 bed place to include them or a 3 bed place.

DUTR

Exodi wrote: »

Bin him off, he clearly has no regard for your interests.

Maybe I missed it, what are the genders of the said group ?

kazwookie

Sorry, you need to put yourself first, you want to save money and your contract is up, and ideal time to move on.

Make sure you have in the correct notice to the LL.

The 4th person can jog on.

onwards&upwards

Get the one who is closest to the ‘stayer’ to sit down and give them the options.

We all want to move, we’d prefer it if you came with us but if you want to stay here and find new housemates we will understand. Please let us know by x date so we can find a place the right size.