Moving into family home after recent separation?

T4i

Hi all,

Looking for a bit of advice if possible.

My partner (female) split up with her husband after he became impossible to live with and was caught having a relationship with another woman.

Everything is currently going through the courts including arrangements of their two children.

The husband moved out about 8 months ago to go live with his new woman. The wife continues to live in the family home and solely pays all the monthly mortgage payments.

The husband is trying to put as much financial pressure on the wife in an attempt to crush her spirits.

I (the 3rd party) has been with the wife for 6 months now and everything is going great - so good we want to live together but are worried this divorce/settlement/etc will go on and on so the husband can add more financial pressure to the wife.

Where do we stand legally with me moving in with her during the divorce/settlements? If I can do this without husbands permission it means I can support the wife financially which will free up her money so she can concentrate on divorce lawyers etc.

I'm guessing as the husband is still on the mortgage we would need to gain written permission from the husband for me to move in?


Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Soundgirlrocks

if she owns it as well she can have whoever she likes live there with her, just be warned he is entitled to move back in and the same applies to him.

onwards&upwards

6 months is really too early to move in and become a step parent, especially when the kids’ dad only left 8 months ago.

I’d just wait.

elsien

Trying to crush her spirit or trying to get his fair share of the joint assets? Always two sides to every story.

ska_lover

I do not see the rush to be honest.

pinkshoes

I'd wait and just carry on as you are.

Been together 6 months and she only split with her husband 8 months ago? Sounds a little like a rebound to me, so all the more reason to give it more time...

T4i

Soundgirlrocks wrote: »

if she owns it as well she can have whoever she likes live there with her, just be warned he is entitled to move back in and the same applies to him.

Thanks for that - that's all I wanted to know.

username12345678

I'm not sure why you would want to put yourself in that position.

If the ex is feeling sore about the situation then seeing you appear in his house is potentially going to pour fuel on the fire.

TBagpuss

If you and she start to cohabit then she will have to disclose this, including disclosing what she knows about your finances, and the court will take into account the fact taht she iscohabiting in assessing hre finacial needs.

It is generally better to wait and not make any plans to move in together until the divorce is over.

On a practical level, it's also wise to be cautious about rushing itno things too fast especially when one party is just coming out of a relationship.

Ozzuk

If you think he is being nasty now...wait until he finds out you've moved in. I really would not entertain this given the environment - escpecially with kids involved.