Partner wanting repayment

maman

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Nothing about what you're describing says 'partnership' at all to me.

I agree with this.

onwards&upwards wrote: »

After 8 years you’re still living like housemates totting up who owns what and who owes who how much. Why?

But not with the implication here that everything has to go in a shared pot. I don't see why the partner has a to 'compensate' OP for her lower salary, especially as she opens her post by telling us it's her house.

onwards&upwards

maman wrote: »

I agree with this.



But not with the implication here that everything has to go in a shared pot. I don't see why the partner has a to 'compensate' OP for her lower salary, especially as she opens her post by telling us it's her house.

I never said that. Anyway, i’ve gone into more detail in my last post.

maman

onwards&upwards wrote: »

I never said that. Anyway, i’ve gone into more detail in my last post.

Thanks for that. As I said., it was the implication I read into it. Sorry for jumping to conclusions. :)

conradmum

Tell him to take the money out of the back rent he owes you for living in your house rent free all those years.

Exodi

conradmum wrote: »

Tell him to take the money out of the back rent he owes you for living in your house rent free all those years.

Have you banged your head? The OP's partner has contributed an extra £9k towards a motor-home they jointly own, has spent time and money on the renovation of this property he doesn't own, and pays bills of which we've no indication of what this includes. Plus whilst not strictly contributory, let's not forget the partner hasn't had to bust her gut for 30 years for this house, they inherited it, it costed/costs them nothing. I would deem it opportunistic at best to entertain the idea of charging rent in these circumstances.

I won't go further on my personal stance of charging your partner rent as I'd imagine there will be a divided view on this but I wonder why you would draw the line there and not start charging fuel and labour for lifts, hire costs should they use any appliances you own, demand they park their car off your drive unless they are willing to lease the land off you, etc

I think the OP would find themselves swiftly single should your advice be followed.

mgdavid

Exodi wrote: »

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I think the OP would find themselves swiftly single should your advice be followed.

In the context of the entire thread that might be no bad thing?

unindexed

to be honest I feel that you should pay him out, find new job and just live with it till not paying back