Choosing Attorneys for a LPOA

schiff

I am about to create my LPOAs. Widower, no dependents, live alone.

I am fortunate in being on very good terms with all the members of my families. I can trust any of them.

My blood relative is a brother, 3 years younger than me, with a wife and three daughters, two of whom are married, one who has children. They all live 90 miles away.

My stepson is only 7 years younger than me. Married with children and grandchildren. They live a few miles away from a flat I own (for holidays and breaks) which I may eventually adopt as my only residence. They have been Attorneys for their mother(-in-law) and an aunt in the family; both now dead. I have talked it over with them and they would be happy to take it on. An added advantage is that they will have the time to deal with things and have indicated their willingness to deal with my Will etc. Something that my younger relatives could find a chore with all being in full-time employment. My affairs are not complex but more painstaking as I have a large number of individual investments.

The next in line is my stepson-in-law, widowed, one married daughter with children. They live a few miles away from my main residence.

I think there is some logic in choosing my stepson and his wife. They have done it before, there are two of them so mutual consultation would be easy. They are keen to assure me that important decisions would be discussed with the rest of the family. They have even suggested a massive get-together with my brother and his family, who they have only met briefly at funerals!

My stepson-in-law owns a rest home that also takes Alzheimer/Dementia patients. I really really don’t want to end up in there but I suppose one day I may have to. On that basis he may have seemed to be the obvious choice. It will take some tact on my part as and when I tell him (and his daughter) what I’m thinking of doing. I don’t want people to fall out about it.

Comments please. TYIA

Yorkshireman99

schiff wrote: »

I am about to create my LPOAs. Widower, no dependents, live alone.

I am fortunate in being on very good terms with all the members of my families. I can trust any of them.

My blood relative is a brother, 3 years younger than me, with a wife and three daughters, two of whom are married, one who has children. They all live 90 miles away.

My stepson is only 7 years younger than me. Married with children and grandchildren. They live a few miles away from a flat I own (for holidays and breaks) which I may eventually adopt as my only residence. They have been Attorneys for their mother(-in-law) and an aunt in the family; both now dead. I have talked it over with them and they would be happy to take it on. An added advantage is that they will have the time to deal with things and have indicated their willingness to deal with my Will etc. Something that my younger relatives could find a chore with all being in full-time employment. My affairs are not complex but more painstaking as I have a large number of individual investments.

The next in line is my stepson-in-law, widowed, one married daughter with children. They live a few miles away from my main residence.

I think there is some logic in choosing my stepson and his wife. They have done it before, there are two of them so mutual consultation would be easy. They are keen to assure me that important decisions would be discussed with the rest of the family. They have even suggested a massive get-together with my brother and his family, who they have only met briefly at funerals!

My stepson-in-law owns a rest home that also takes Alzheimer/Dementia patients. I really really don’t want to end up in there but I suppose one day I may have to. On that basis he may have seemed to be the obvious choice. It will take some tact on my part as and when I tell him (and his daughter) what I’m thinking of doing. I don’t want people to fall out about it.

Comments please. TYIA

All other things being equal. Try and choose those significantly younger than you. Make sure you allow attorneys to act jointly AND severally. Choose three if you can.

Mojisola

schiff wrote: »

My stepson-in-law owns a rest home that also takes Alzheimer/Dementia patients. I really really don’t want to end up in there but I suppose one day I may have to.

On that basis he may have seemed to be the obvious choice. It will take some tact on my part as and when I tell him (and his daughter) what I’m thinking of doing.

Wouldn't it be impossible for him to have you as a paying resident in his care home if he was also your attorney?

schiff

Mojisola wrote: »

Wouldn't it be impossible for him to have you as a paying resident in his care home if he was also your attorney?

I don't know, but then he won't be my attorney.

Mojisola

schiff wrote: »

My stepson-in-law owns a rest home that also takes Alzheimer/Dementia patients. I really really don’t want to end up in there but I suppose one day I may have to. On that basis he may have seemed to be the obvious choice. It will take some tact on my part as and when I tell him (and his daughter) what I’m thinking of doing. I don’t want people to fall out about it.

schiff wrote: »

I don't know, but then he won't be my attorney.

I thought you were considering him?

If not, you have the perfect reason for not choosing him, just in case you need to become a resident of his home in the future.

elsien

Who do you think knows you and what you may want the best, and who do you trust the most to carry out your wishes.