Child benefit and state pension

Paul_Herring

That was the thinking behind the benefit - it should go where it is needed, i.e. to be spent on the children.

You make it sound like none of money the earning spouse is getting is been spent on the children...

atush

woolly_wombat wrote: »

No, and why is your husband claiming CB when you are the one staying at home?

That benefit should be going to you, not your husband. That was the thinking behind the benefit - it should go where it is needed, i.e. to be spent on the children.

It is quite baffling as to why it was set up that way.

I say this as a non UK/EU imitgrant with a UK husband. There was zero reason for him to apply rather than me. if both are UK than this could fall under the new rules of financial spousal abuse (as it keeps money out of the hands of the one who needs it

atush

Paul_Herring wrote: »

You make it sound like none of money the earning spouse is getting is been spent on the children...

Not really. It was set up when working men were paid their wage, in cash on a friday. And spent it down the pub/wherever and didnt give money to pay for food and rent.

Paul_Herring

atush wrote: »

Not really. It was set up when working men were paid their wage, in cash on a friday. And spent it down the pub/wherever and didnt give money to pay for food and rent.

Oh, I agree, and understand, why it was set up the way it was - I was more addressing the implication being made, in the post I replied to, about this particular couple.

atush

And as possibly a male presumably have no idea how and why financial control is now considered abuse.

Paul_Herring

Isn't it amazing how a wife asking if they, as a couple, should be moving the child benefit into her name, has suddenly, in the past few posts, morphed into it being spousal financial abuse, and accusations of ignorance made because another poster happens to be male?

SMDH.

Have fun in the rest of the thread you lot, I'm unsubscribing from it.

zagfles

Paul_Herring wrote: »

Isn't it amazing how a wife asking if they, as a couple, should be moving the child benefit into her name, has suddenly, in the past few posts, morphed into it being spousal financial abuse, and accusations of ignorance made because another poster happens to be male?

SMDH.

Have fun in the rest of the thread you lot, I'm unsubscribing from it.

This board is starting to get as judgemental as some other MSE boards like the benefits and the marriages board :eek: People come on for a factual answer to a factual question and get called stupid or implications of abuse.

Still at least the OP has got the answer to her question.

seven-day-weekend

I haven't been on this board for a while - yes it has become judgmental and nasty but tbh, so have most of the others.

I asked a question on the motoring board about whether I had to declare expired points on the insurance renewal. I asked because I didn't know the answer.

I was accused of plotting to defraud the insurance company, driving without insurance, being too thick and stupid to understand something so mind-numbingly simple....I shan't ask a question on that board again in a hurry!

If I, as a seasoned old hand can be upset and put off from asking a question, then how does it look to new people?

I am beginning to despair of this site.

kangoora

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I haven't been on this board for a while - yes it has become judgmental and nasty but tbh, so have most of the others.

I asked a question on the motoring board about whether I had to declare expired points on the insurance renewal. I asked because I didn't know the answer.

I was accused of plotting to defraud the insurance company, driving without insurance, being too thick and stupid to understand something so mind-numbingly simple....I shan't ask a question on that board again in a hurry!

If I, as a seasoned old hand can be upset and put off from asking a question, then how does it look to new people?

I am beginning to despair of this site.

I've noticed the motoring board being especially judgemental and, at times, just plain nasty. I concur that I'll think long and hard before posting anything on there.

ChopperST

My wife is a SAH Mum for our two little ones. She is the named recipient for our child benefit but the money is paid into my bank account as I am a higher rate tax payer and I pay into a SIPP to reduce my ANI so we can keep the benefit. My wife has no interest in finance and is more than happy for me to do so.

Here is just one practical example as to why the man might be receiving the child benefit as opposed to the woman. It certainly isn't financial abuse.