being executor and beneficiary and the will help

mark55man

good luck with your dilemma - its established this is a family matter and not a legal matter so I think you need to think about
* why is £4K more important to you than £3K, and
* (becasue I am not taking sides) why is £1K more important to them than £500

I think you are suffering because you have little left and your daughters are suffering because £500 is well short of what nana told them (and they will remember your mum saying £3K and not the fact that it had all gone).

I think if it was me, I would not move from the £500 but to show you had listened to them, maybe there were some personal items that they would appreciate that you could do without. Then once you had done that maybe spend a little of your money on a joint family thing to remember her by

if you do however feel they are going to bang about this for years - although its emotional blackmail losing out on £1K is nothing compared to the warm feeling you will have both about how well you looked after your mum and about passing down a bit of wealth. I would however accompany the money with a serious lecture about putting it aside to do some good (the money is the end result of a self sufficient and hard fought battle of life) and that they must not fritter it away onthe latest iphone X (which coincidentally cost £900)

nom_de_plume

Just going off on a slight tangent here but how confident are you of the figures you mention? I ask as the estimated final value of the estate is getting very close to zero and I wonder if there's any other unexpected expenses that may come out of the woodwork which could have the potential to make the estate insolvent?

Newly_retired

Nomdepkume, I was going to say the same.
Are you sure there are no outstanding debts, especially if the DWP come after you?
Are you going to want to erect a headstone or memorial plaque at some stage?
Are all solicitors’ bills finalised?
These are all things that may reduce the amount available.