Advice on how to tell people you are not gift giving

fiestafantastic

I would like advice from people about how to stop giving xmas presents to other people, in particular, their children. I have friends who I never see, never get an acknowledgement of gifts received and from next year my financial circumstances change so am less likely to afford.

As time has gone on the number of children has more than quadrupled, I dont think these children them as need as they get plenty from others and I genuinely think environmentally it's not good either. I would rather donate to local charities who need and appreciate it.

I don't want to appear cheap so how do announce this is the last Christmas and in some cases birthdays I am giving presents.

elsien

fiestafantastic wrote: »

I would like advice from people about how to stop giving xmas presents to other people, in particular, their children. I have friends who I never see, never get an acknowledgement of gifts received nd from next year my financial circumstances change so am less likely to afford.

As time has gone on the number of children has more than quadrupled, I dont think these children them as need as they get plenty from others and I genuinely think environmentally it's not good either. I would rather donate to local charities who need and appreciate it.

I don't want to appear cheap so how do announce this is the last Christmas and in some cases birthdays I am giving presents.

I think you need to revisit your definition of a friend. I wouldn't be buying them presents, let alone their children.

Just send the card and nothing else. I doubt it'll come as any great surprise to them.

BrassicWoman

Buy an oxfam goat. Tell them you’ve bought them all a share in a goat. They’d be pretty brass necked to object.

Next year buy them a share in a clean toilet. And so on.

Mojisola

fiestafantastic wrote: »

I would like advice from people about how to stop giving xmas presents to other people, in particular, their children.

I have friends who I never see, never get an acknowledgement of gifts received

I don't want to appear cheap so how do announce this is the last Christmas and in some cases birthdays I am giving presents.

Why are you buying this year?

Just don't send presents - you never see them and they don't thank you for the presents - what are they going to do?

ska_lover

In that specific circumstance, I would just stop.

suki1964

As above - just stop

Did you not see the Martin Lewis show this evening?

Manxman_in_exile

We never give birthday or Christmas presents to anyone. And we tell family that we don't want to receive any.


Certainly would never consider giving presents to friends and their children. Sounds a bit odd to me.

Aced2016

I wouldn't announce it at all !

I have 4 kids so I know it's far too much for people.

So I told everyone not to bother as they get plenty from us. And if they want to do anything a card is great.

I like the acknowledgement not the gift!

And if they are your friends they wouldn't give it a second thought !

Red-Squirrel_2

They've probably been hoping you'd get the hint and stop for years.

dawyldthing

You could even put a little note saying about rather than giving a present you’d love to meet up for a coffee or even one of these

https://www.facebook.com/654146061272142/posts/2089192594434141/

To say rather than giving you’d love to be present. I think doing things with others is better than presents any day of the week. I only buy when visiting folk or it turns into a circus sending stuff all the time.

candygirl

I wouldn't even explain it.If they're that ungrateful, they don't deserve an explanation