Owe my ex money.

Gigglypuff

Quite long winded, apologies. The father of my unborn baby decided to leave, wanting nothing to do with baby. While we were together he gave me £150 as my wage and housing benefit got screwed one month. I immediately refused it, sent it back and he sent it back to me again, insisting I accept it. So I did, he said to pay him back when I have it and that he wasn't bothered if I didn't at all if it came to that. Fast forward to him deciding to leave, he demands the money back, in what I can only say was a tantrum. I didn't have it all, so I sent him 40 which was all I had in my bank account. He calmed down, sent it back. He then decided he wanted nothing more to do with me, demanded I post his things to him, which I did. Haven't heard from him in nearly two months after he told me that he felt like hurting himself and I told him to seek help. Today I recieved a message staying he's waited long enough, he wants his money regardless of 'what has happened', and to not bother replying as he's blocked my phone number. It's almost Christmas, I don't have the money to spare, I have a four year old to support as well as myself and need to buy things for the baby. I feel I need to pay it back. I just can't afford it. What can I do?

Comms69

ignore him? And make sure you contact CMS once the baby is born.


I mean who cares what he thinks. Sounds like a total waste of space.


Is the 4 year old his?

rach_k

Take it off his first child maintenance payment.

Thrice

Pay what back?? Does he have proof that it was a 'gift' which he can cast up to you and demand back at any time?

If he has actually blocked your number then good, block his and be done with him.

Get the DNA test done when baby is born, and make your CSA claim against him.

Don't stress yourself out over this, it really is a minor issue in the grand scheme. DO NOT let his behaviour get you down. Look after yourself and keep healthy/happy,

x

TBagpuss

Ignore for now, if he contacts you again remain him that he forced you to take it and that he told you he didn't need it back (if he said that in a text or e-mail, send him a copy of that)

Once the baby arrives you can apply to the CMS and can offer to pay him back out of the child maintenance

Marvel1

Twll him you bought his baby, baby things out of it.