Champagne Lifestyle on a Lemonade Budget.

suki1964

Hey Gracie, im a few month older then you and I've been peri/menopausal for the past 7 or 8 years - hard to tell because Ive the Mirena, last one inserted at the age of 50 :eek:

However it was only this Sumer that I opened up about the anxiety ( long term MH problems ) and I accepted I needed help, I really was struggling with silly things like someone said something I thought a bit off, and it floored me for days.

Im now on sertraline, specifically prescribed for anxiety ( not depression) and after getting through the after effects Im glad to be on them

They for me, don't effect my general mood. I still have all of the upsets and joyful occasions , just I don't feel like the word is having a pop at me, the paranoia is eased and Im coping with life a lot better

which means I sleep better,, which means the following day is more manageable, which means Im no longer a gibbering wreck in the corner

for me, with long term MH issues, to go back on meds was a HUGE deal, something I fought, but the fact is, my life is pretty good right now

Graciefields

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Gracie - you're my new bff - for being so honest and fair.:T You are pretty unique in being so - there's not a lot like you from what I can see.
Not so honest as to refuse the benefit. Bit hypocritical really. Blushes.

Hope you're feeling better soon ((( )))

candygirl wrote: »

GRACIE there's no harm or shame in trying anti depressants.I wouldn't be here without mine They take 4-6 weeks to start working though x

Lifeofdreams wrote: »

Dear Graciefields

Thanks for the info. Hope you are doing ok? Hugs.

Is your anxiety related to menopause? Have you been on the menopause Uk website their is some great information there. You can also refer yourself to increased access to psychological therapies for your anxiety (talking therapy) which can be provided over the telephone or face to face. Usually cognitive therapy is provided. Alternatively if you go to your local library they should have books on prescription ( self help books for anxiety recommended by NHS).

Anxiety can be so debilitating. I hope you get the help you need. A lot can be linked to the menopause. Sending you a virtual hug💐

Wow, lots of info and good advice here. I'm not sure if I've been through the menopause but I'm presuming I have. Is there a test? I'm heading for the Menopause website now. I'm also going to book an appointment with the Doctor and look at refering myself for therapy.
Thank you all so much. Such wonderful people.

candygirl

Graciefields wrote: »

Wow, lots of info and good advice here. I'm not sure if I've been through the menopause but I'm presuming I have. Is there a test? I'm heading for the Menopause website now. I'm also going to book an appointment with the Doctor and look at refering myself for therapy.
Thank you all so much. Such wonderful people.

The doc can do a hormone test to see where your levels are at, also see how long it's been since your last period etc.
Like SUKI I'm also on sertraline, n it really does help x:D

jackieblack

For anyone who didn't see it, Mariella Frostrup presented a good documentary 'The Truth about The Menopause', which was on the BBC a couple of weeks ago


Still available for another couple of weeks on iPlayer
https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b0bt4c3m/the-truth-about-28-the-menopause

candygirl

jackieblack wrote: »

For anyone who didn't see it, Mariella Frostrup presented a good documentary 'The Truth about The Menopause', which was on the BBC a couple of weeks ago


Still available for another couple of weeks on iPlayer
https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b0bt4c3m/the-truth-about-28-the-menopause

Wasn't it brilliant!! Especially the "andropause" bit, where she really stood her ground :rotfl:

humptydumptybits

lessonlearned wrote: »

I recall reading somewhere that you were looking at over £200k to bring up a child. I have never dared tot it up but it wouldn't surprise me if you took into account lost income, childcare costs, helping them through university etc.

They are not a cheap hobby......:rotfl:

I agree, I wouldn't dare add up what I have spent on mine over the years. Your kids and mine are paying for our pensions now so more than paying back anything they got/we got for them.

Wednesday2000

I asked my doctor to check me for the menopause as my periods have been irregular and painful. He laughed and said I was too young (patronising!:mad:) but then I was tested and I'm not menopausal yet.

I'm trying to make sure I get healthy fats daily at the moment as I heard the other day how important they are for women to balance their hormones.

humptydumptybits

I didn't have a normal menopause, hysterectomy and ovaries removed when I was in my 40s. Everyone said I would have a terrible problem with such a sudden "end" but I was really lucky and had no problems. In fact it was wonderful as I had difficult periods so it was all positive for me. The only thing I worry about is osteoporosis but I am going to have a scan in the New Year, the NHS won't do it as I'm not in the right category which I don't understand as I had early menopause and broke my ankle when I tripped so it shouldn't have broken. I'm not sure what does qualify but anyway I'm going to pay and hopefully set my mind at rest. I didn't like being in plaster and don't want it to happen again if I can avoid it.

Graciefields

humptydumptybits wrote: »

I agree, I wouldn't dare add up what I have spent on mine over the years. Your kids and mine are paying for our pensions now so more than paying back anything they got/we got for them.

No they are not cheap. I could only afford to have one.
I actually paid for my own pension. My contributions from my salary were quite substantial. I've also paid for my state pension if I actually ever get it as they keep moving the age further away.

My Champagne moment today was taking the dog out for a long walk in the beautiful countryside. I'm going to make an inidan Fakeaway for my tea. Will taste better and will save pennies towards my cruise!

candygirl

humptydumptybits wrote: »

I didn't have a normal menopause, hysterectomy and ovaries removed when I was in my 40s. Everyone said I would have a terrible problem with such a sudden "end" but I was really lucky and had no problems. In fact it was wonderful as I had difficult periods so it was all positive for me. The only thing I worry about is osteoporosis but I am going to have a scan in the New Year, the NHS won't do it as I'm not in the right category which I don't understand as I had early menopause and broke my ankle when I tripped so it shouldn't have broken. I'm not sure what does qualify but anyway I'm going to pay and hopefully set my mind at rest. I didn't like being in plaster and don't want it to happen again if I can avoid it.

I had a total hysterectomy n ovaries removed at 37.I went straight into a surgical menopause, n yet Wasn't given HRT until 18 months later .I was literally like a mad woman I think this has a lot to do with my anxiety issues now