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Urgent Advice Needed - Bullied at work
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Its not even Christmas yet theirs Snow Flakes every where...:D0
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Hi All,
Thank you for your comments so far.
For a little more info:
I have been at the company 3 years
I have considered staying, after all it would be better to have money coming in and will look better for my future applications. However the office atmosphere at the moment is toxic. It’s a small office so I cant be relocated and I work opposite my colleague all day long. He hasn’t spoken a single word to me since the shouting incident.
Yes I definitely get the feeling they want me gone. In fact they seemed to have made up their minds before I even sat down in the meeting. So I want to leave as soon as possible but as per my contract I have to work 1 months notice. This is what I need help figuring out – whether or not I can get signed off sick for my notice period so that I don’t have to deal with any of it.
What I went to management about wasn’t necessarily personal issues between me and him. Im well aware that not everyone is going to get on with every single one of their colleagues. The comments about my personal life, jokes about my partner, jokes that I’d been having affairs with various males in the office, jokes about my sex life I felt were ridiculous but for the last year and a half I let it be because I didn’t want to be the child running to management because someone is “making fun” of me. The silent treatment for a week and a half before he snapped at me, started swearing and making comments about my work when I had done nothing to warrant it at all pushed me over he edge. He’s made so many mistakes in his work and that’s fine if he doesn’t care about his work standard but he has been taking tasks of mine without telling me and totally messing them up, leaving me with twice as much work to fix.
Without office policies and procedures to follow, I really don’t know what im doing, what to do next and want to avoid making any more decisions that will mess things up further for me but I don’t feel capable of sticking out 1 month of notice.
Sorry, I meant to say if I decide to stay, she will make the final decision so in terms of staying or leaving I have 3 options – stay and she’ll agree to me staying and I can carry on working while I look elsewhere and get out as soon as possible, stay and she’ll say she doesn’t want me to, so I leave. Or make the decision straight up to leave because life is too short for this.
I completely agree that I didn’t take the time to calm down. If I had, I would never have reported anything and my life would be a lot easier.0 -
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Beverley_Hillbillies wrote: »Do you have a protected characteristic?
No, I don't0 -
You most definitely do have a bunch of protected characteristics - we all do! They include things like age, race and sex.
The issue is likely to be whether you were discriminated against on the basis of a protected characteristic. But if you want to leave, then even if you were discriminated against on that basis it may not be worthwhile doing anything about it.0 -
Op, have you spoken to ACAS about your issues?.
I had to ring them about my bosses action of dismissing me for no valid reason, and they advised me to go to tribunal for wrongful dismissal due to breach of contract. This I am about to do.
They should be able to give you some good advice regarding your matter.0 -
Beverley_Hillbillies wrote: »Do you have a protected characteristic?
Everyone has a protected characteristic ( several actually)....0 -
The thought of having to stay to work my one month notice is killing me. Since all this started I've had daily headaches, stomach problems, I'm barely sleeping and just feel like a zombie. I am hoping that I'll be able to use my remaining 5.5 annual leave days which will cut a week off my notice but apparently thats up to my boss whether I get to do that?
if you are set on leaving, don't bother using up your AL. Just call in sick. They will understand and so will you, no one will want you to come in anyway. Just phone up and say 'sorry I don't think I'll be able to come back in for a while. I feel ill'.0
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