Advice on gazumping

Red1987

Thank you all.
I think you’re right - we need to look at our priorities and what’s most important. It’s difficult as I’ve let my emotions get involved and I’m finding it hard to separate the house from the memories, which I know is foolish but easier said than done.
I completely understand why you wouldn’t take it off the market - honestly the person we were hoping to buy from is a really lovely person (from what we’ve found through this process) and I know he was very kind to hold it for us at all - obviously it’s a frustrating situation but I agree he’s doing the right thing. It’s annoying that he is sticking with the second offer (which is lower than our original offer), but I can see it is the right thing to do, and honestly I think with the luck we’ve had, going into a new property in an unkind way is probably no way to start over. And you’re right I have no idea what the new buyers circumstances are.
We will look for something else and I will speak to my husband about the possibility of expanding the search area. I don’t want to mess around our buyer either, so I think whatever decision we make tonight will be the decider.
I think maybe selling now either way may be a good idea, as potentially with brexit house prices may go down which would open up other options for us. We have pets so rented might be difficult but our parents have large gardens and I wouldn’t be too bothered about a caravan for a short time!

-taff

You could try posting letters through the doors of houses you do like the look of to see if they would sell, write them a nice note explaining you'd like to live there etc etc

Red1987

That’s a good idea, thank you

aliby21

Honestly, now you have a buyer I would carry on and sell your house and rent somewhere - in your village or maybe even in a neighbouring village. It will give you a breathing space, and you will be in an ideal position when something does come up in the village that hubby wants. Or maybe living somewhere else will give you (him) fresh views on what you would be happy with. i rented after a sale and it was the best thing I ever did, gave me the opportunity to find the house I am in now.

Soundgirlrocks

Knowing rural villages I'd put the word out that you would like to move but stay in the village, you might find that here is someone else in a similar situation perhaps looking to downsize.

AnotherJoe

Is building a possibility ?