O/S Daily Sunday 21st October 2018

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Morning ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) if you need one.

Abright but cold morning here, OH has been in the garden for his half an hour.

We are eating at lunchtime today, we have been invited to see the new baby this afternoon, so tea and biccies......I have a couple of jobs to do whilst we are in the town, so want to leave here around 2.15pm

Has a decent sewing day yesterday, 4 mats bound, one table runner put together, bound and the binding sewn down, and a Christmas tree wall hanging part done. I rigged up a liight in the sitting room so I could hand sew the binding down whilst watching TV.

Roast prok, spuds, cauliflower, calabrese and carrots for lunch, tea will be a snack and a piece of cake.

-taff

Morning all bright and sunny here, it makes such a difference in your mood when the suns out and shining, even if it is cold
No plans for today, maybe a bit of potter cleaning, a friend of the OH came round yesterday and they both sanded the front [or what used to be] the front door, so that's done now, hooray, it might even be back on by Christmas Thinking of just spraying it instead of painting, or maybe covering with fabric, it's not the outside door anymore, so we could pretty much do anything to it...
Haven't seen the cat that comes in for pets today yet. I put on some cat tv this week to see what would happen, he was absolutely fascinated, and you can see his paw prints on the TV stand where he's gently patted the TV to see if he could catch the birds...[this means some dusting later on boviously]. It was really funny though, now I know that cats absolutely do like to watch TV if it's something interesting

Will try to go through my stash and find the stuff I want to selll on ebay, it's that time of year for Halloween and Christmas frocks, so I'll dig some old stuff out and see how it goes..Sunday is always the best day to sell stuff.
Food wise - not sure, things I think may taste of something turn out not to, so mashed potatoes along with gloopy gravy will be somewhere on the menu, or maybe leeks in white sauce...OH is going to see a band with a friend tonight so it might just be a tin of soup
red ruby, can't belive they STILL haven't got it right! tru, in agreement with ollie, that's a surprising chain of events I thought maybe there was a future accident waiting to happen with a chainsaw for example?

Poppy, hope you're ok today, there are support groups too, and I'm not much of a joiner of things, but occasionally, they do come in handy..Have you any near you?
Have a good Sunday if you can everyone

poppy811

Hi Everyone and thank you for your messages of support.
I probably need to explain my situation a little more. When I was diagnosed with inoperable breast cancer earlier this year it had already spread to my lungs. There is a new oral chemo that is not as vicious as IV chemo and it might be possible to prevent further spread for a couple of years. Scans are performed every 3 months and if the drug is not working it is stopped. The regime is 3 weeks on one week off the drug and that extreme lethargy is normal on week 3. The idea is to buy some time to enjoy a little bit longer. This has not proved to be the case and I am reduced to lying on the sofa unable to do anything.

I get a blood test at the beginning of week 5 and then have a 40 mile round trip to collect the next batch of tablets. The GP is not allowed to dispense them.

I live very rurally and the nearest Maggies Centre is again a 40 mile round trip and the secondary Breast cancer group is at 8.30 in the evening. I do not drive at night so that is not possible. I have asked about support but it appears that none is offered to people in my position.

I feel that if this treatment offers me any quality of life I should continue but at the moment it is just making me ill and whenever it stops the outcome will be the same.

I am a retired Nurse and have always felt there should be a place for euthanasia. Apologies to anyone who does not agree, just my personal opinion

-taff

Really sorry to hear what you're going through, and sorry my ideas of help are not going to. And that's the trouble with them, it involves having to get up and go somewhere which is obviously not possible for you. Do you have any good neighbour schemes or a social worker for practical help? Wish I could help, in a practical way.
I unserstand now why you would be considering stopping the treatment, and I have to say , in your position, I'd be considering the same. No judgement about that.

WeeMidgie

Poppy, I sympathise with your situation. From my experience of looking after my mother who lived in a rural area, cancer support services away from centres of population are often patchy or non existent.

Thank you for explaining your situation, it helps having a clearer idea of what you're going through. It's very tough dealing with treatment that isn't helping your quality of life. I send virtual hugs to you ((()))

In much more trivial news, I'm having a duvet day thanks to a sore throat. The cat's enjoying extra bed time too. I tried talking to her, but my voice has disappeared for the time being... so silence reigns!

My vision board is on display, quite appropriately it's theme is wellbeing. Lots of lovely positive qualities and ideas on it - and flowers, in abundance. I thoroughly enjoyed the day.

Wishing everyone the best possible day today. xxx

Gers

Poppy - you are being very brave and realistic.

My views on euthanasia are not for this forum, however I do accept and embrace personal responsibilty and determination. My love goes out to you whatever you decide.

donny-gal

Afternoon Friends old and new

I still pop by for a read now and again. Life is still good with us, DS & DIL have just had GC#2 another Granddaughter, but fine and healthy and that is all we ever ask for.

DH Had a busy morning as our sink drain was blocked, took some finding and clearing, but done now. I'd caught up all but the towels and dog blankets from our recent trip to see new & existing GC, but the washer was not in place during the de-blocking, but weather looking reasonable again tomorrow, so hopefully get them cleared then.

Just sat listing to iPlayer Radio with Tony Blackburn's sounds of he 60's, and playing on the laptop. Made the batter for a Toad in the Hole for tea, with l/o Carrots, Parsnips, Brocolli & Mash from yesterday. Stored as always in my ancient Tupperware, but still more environmentally friendly that Cling Film and plastic bags.

Poppy, hugs to you, no judgement, must admit my opinion is similar, especially after watching Dad with 5 years of Dementia, the latter part being bed bound, almost blind and deaf, he would have hated it.

Still keep contemplating about moving closer to DS & DIL & the GC's, but not done anything about it yet. (Yorkshire to Surrey) not that we can afford Surrey, but closer than 4+ hours would be a bonus.

((hugs)), spoons and positive vibes all round.
DG

ScarletRibbons

Poppy, I understand your situation better now, and also understand your feelings about euthanasia.

I'm so sorry about it all.

ancientofdays

Poppy I don't think that I can help you with words on a screen, other than for you to know how much others are thinking of you. What a horrible situation and no judgement from me.

Olliebeak1951

Poppy - so sorry to read more fully about your situation - I just can't imagine how I'd feel if I were in your shoes. Hoping that - despite what 'they' say - somewhere can be found for you to get the support/care that you are so obviously are in need of.

((((Gentle Hugs)))) for you - Ollie xx