Telling the parents, and thanks.

rossh70

Jeez 50p, i read your post and thought i had typed it without realising. Spookily i talked with my folks tonight- they knew i had probs but had no idea how difficult i was findin it to cope. Have lost 2 stone in about 6 weeks i reckon!
Anyway they are helping me by letting me use some of my inheritance to pay off one of my biggest debts which will make a massive difference to me on a monthly basis.
Not ashamed to say i cried in front of them tonight- didnt want to but when i hugged my mum i just "went."
Anyway all the best mate, i am rootin for ya.
Ross

beemuzed

All the best 50p. I think you're being very brave telling the family. I'm the sort who'd hide my problems from as many as possible, and can't imagine being able to share with the family - but I'm certain you're doing the right thing. Keep us posted.

kizzykizzywizzy

well done in facing up to your problems, they say a problem shared is a problem halved, i really hope telling your parents takes some of the pressure off.
Also you can channel your addictive personality to money saving
Good Luck

Numpty_Monkey

Just wanted to say good luck,it is frightening telling your family but i think you may be suprised by the love,help and support they'll give you, and don't be surprised if they already have a suspision that something is wrong(somehow close family and always know????)

keep us posted

50p

Willsnarf1983 wrote: »

I'm a little worried about the denial that you only gamble when u've been drinking, 29k is alot of money to do that whilst only on the drinking terms. Are you being completely honest with yourself about that?

Yes. I honestly believe I am. I'm not going to sit here and say I've never gambled sober, that would be a huge fib (although I can't remember that last time I did), but the problem for me is I gamble to excess when I've been drinking.

The whole debt isn't from gambling, but please don't think I'm trying to detract from the fact that I have a problem. I know I do, unfortunately I've probably got several!

Willsnarf1983 wrote: »

As for the debt, its not going to go away overnight and its going to be a long slog btu the main thing is not to worry about it, the more u worry the more likely u'll gamble and the more debt u'll get in. I wouldn't suggest cutting away ur life, personally i believe u just need to get back to a normal life and start chipping away at the debt without losing a 'normal' life...if that makes sense

Makes perfect sense Will, almost as if you'd been spying on me for the last couple of years! Again it's not just gambling but everything. I would burry my head in the sand and continue to spend because it was easier to do that than face reality. I guess that's pretty typical of people in debt tho, and certainly doesn't help matters.

Thanks for your post mate, and everyone elses. Really does mean alot. While I'm not looking forward to tomorrow one bit your kind words are really comforting.

50p

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Also you can channel your addictive personality to money saving
Good Luck

Here's hoping, and thanks!

Numpty_Monkey wrote: »

Just wanted to say good luck,it is frightening telling your family but i think you may be suprised by the love,help and support they'll give you, and don't be surprised if they already have a suspision that something is wrong(somehow close family and always know????)

keep us posted

I think my mother already has a suspision, and the fact I suspect she suspects (if that makes any sense!) has almost made me avoid her to a certain extent. Which to be honest, is completely unforgivable on my behalf, and one of the reasons I've been so down.

Homework

Good luck and keep to the plan.

Our debt is hidden from almost everyone and it makes it harder but circumstances are such that we prefer it this way if that makes any sense.

Homework

Except for avoiding people - I hate that so much. My parents will be the first to be told when it is over. I just want it to be over as quickly as possible and am trying harder to make it go faster.

50p

rossh70 wrote: »

Jeez 50p, i read your post and thought i had typed it without realising. Spookily i talked with my folks tonight- they knew i had probs but had no idea how difficult i was findin it to cope. Have lost 2 stone in about 6 weeks i reckon!
Anyway they are helping me by letting me use some of my inheritance to pay off one of my biggest debts which will make a massive difference to me on a monthly basis.
Not ashamed to say i cried in front of them tonight- didnt want to but when i hugged my mum i just "went."
Anyway all the best mate, i am rootin for ya.
Ross

Wow. I just read your thread mate and it is rather spooky, even up to a couple of things I never mentioned in in my post which you touched on in yours. Really pleased for you, and hope things continue to look up. I never really cry, but already have shed a few tears over this.

Numpty_Monkey

hello again:T

IMHO I think she knows,(mothers intuition and all that) just not the full the situation, I think she'd prefer if you told her,
I got a right ear bashing when i finally told my mam, :eek: :eek: (told her alot of other things aswell) that she'd "known",
don't get me wrong there are gonna be alot of tears a lot of questions, but a lot of help
mam and family send me "red cross parcels":rotfl: (ok they're cleaning out their cupboards)

It Sounds like you have a loving family and us on here that will help you.

hope i make sense