Moving ON to Contribution Based ESA

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tomtom256 wrote: »

It wasn't offensive, I think the poster was just pointing out that if one cannot work owing to an illness the chance of being able to raise a child, which is a lot harder than holding down a job, wouldn't be realistic.

Totally agree, I have 2 chronic conditions and struggle to work and thought a baby would be a breeze. They just sleep and eat yeah? Oh my I've never been so tired and ill in my life, he's 8 now and still more work than a full time job!

xylophone

I find it quite offensive that someone should suggest that having a chronic illness should preclude someone from having children.

Did I suggest that?

xylophone

some days I can barely cope with looking after myself.

A friend's sister (enjoying a happy and successful career as a physiotherapist) quite suddenly developed ME - as far as I could gather from my friend, this poor lady had many days when she could hardly move from her bed because of pain and exhaustion - I was thinking of her when I replied to the OP.

dippy3103

Reading your post, I think PIP is the only way forward. Could she work part time? She would not need to do many hours a week to earn the equivalent of ESA.

sangie595

peadarruadh wrote: »

I find it quite offensive that someone should suggest that having a chronic illness should preclude someone from having children. I would say my response was certainly sarcastic but hardly unpleasant. I did respond to the post about PIP, I clicked the thank you button.


It's not that easy to increase my earnings. I'm at the top of the salary scale and promoted posts are few and far between. PIP would definitely help but CB-ESA would give her the medium term security she needed to work on something to get her off in the long term.

Absolutely nobody said that. They said that if you can't afford to have children, then you should seriously consider if having children is appropriate. You may live together and have as many children as you like. Get a better job and you can do that. It's the same choice for everyone else. Chronic illness doesn't mean you get special treatment.

Sorry, but life is hard and then you die. In other words, if you actually love each other you have to make it work, just like everyone else on low pay does. If you can't even envisage that, then you'll never survive life as a couple, and best call it qquits now before you bring children into the equation.

Cheeky_Monkey

peadarruadh wrote: »

We had looked into the possibility of registering her as a Sole Trader after they removed her income-related ESA and making voluntary NI contributions until such a time as she qualifies. Does anyone know if this can be done?

I thought you said she couldn't work? How is she going to register as a self employed sole trader without actually working?

dippy3103

Cheeky_Monkey wrote: »

I thought you said she couldn't work? How is she going to register as a self employed sole trader without actually working?

I suspect that this is very dodgy ground, possibly even criminal - as some sort of misrepresentation.