Where to live?

Lizbragg33

I have no real advice to offer you as I live in the south east which is quite expensive but I have just read this whole thread. I just want to say you have had some fantastic supportive advice and I really hope you find your perfect house. I am also very sorry about your mum and dad and the things you have gone through. I really hope this will be a fantastic fresh start for you and I urge you if possible to make friends with your neighbours, do some volunteer work, join some clubs. There are some fantastic people in this world and love and friendships are so precious. Good luck and keep us updated xx

HollySocks_2

Hi Knightstyle, thanks for the advice.
I have been looking at town houses. Those ones on 3 floors..often quite spacious, and can have a floor for the lodgers.The garden thing, well i'd prefer somewhere enclosed. Sounds wierd, but things like going into a garden when the neighbours are a few feet away, i'd hide inside and not go out. Its very wierd ha, but thats what social anxiety does. I have to worry about all that stuff anyway if i go out, but it would be nice to have a garden where i can stop worrying :-) Course, if you get on with the neighbours, you can invite them over...
Re renting, its a great idea. Its just as the inheritance cheque came through 2 days ago,my benefits get stopped, housing benefit gets stopped. So i have no income. Thats fair enough, i have money to support myself.

But i can buy a house without it being viewed as deprivation of capital. Each month i continue to rent, i lose £900 a month. It makes economic sense to purchase a place quickly, and have the benefits re-instated and then attempt to get better so i can come off them.
How do you find the townhouse? The ones ive looked at are all in a row, new style terraced house i guess. Does the noise travel through the walls? Having only really lived in housing assoc flats, i can hear every word when the neighbour is speaking or on the phone...Maybe cheap build i dont know, but are town houses ok?

PokerPlayer111

HollySocks wrote: »

Sounds wierd, but things like going into a garden when the neighbours are a few feet away, i'd hide inside and not go out. Its very wierd ha, but thats what social anxiety does.

Its perfectly natural and means your brain is working. The unconcious can be a right git to change once its running certain patterns - often much programming from childhood. Social anxiety is a tricky thing to deal with and even harder when most of the population are clueless on social anxiety & mental health in general.

knightstyle

Hi again Hollysocks. Yes i can understand that with the garden. We love the town house, you get a lot more for your money, one just along from us just sold for £140k, for that you get a decent kitchen diner and a study/boot room on the ground floor, an en-suite bedroom and sitting roon on the first floor, the sitting room overlooks the river Trent with boats, wildfowl and a nature reserve on the other side, then the top floor has 3 bedrooms and a bathroom, well it did but we knocked two bedrooms into one so we have a big bedroom overlooking the river. Oh plus a garage, and we are at the end of a quiet road.
We do not get much noise through the walls but one of our neighbours has a 1 year old and a 3 year old and of course we hear them playing outside, sometimes it can get quite noisy but you would get that with most houses.

Moneymadmark

I'm joining the thread a tad late, as you've probably moved but not to worry. Just a few points.



Cleveleys has a good mix of people age wise - just to prove this, I am the same age range as yourself. The prom is brand new and quite safe to walk along - I was walking along it at 4.00am the other morning and no-one was around - ironically not far from the house that Blondetotty has linked to.


Bispham is pronounced "Bisp-ham".


As for depressing in February, it can be in Blackpool especially around the centre but not the Cleveleys area. Can be very windy though!

HollySocks_2

Thanks MadMark.
Haven't bought anywhere yet, but have kinda settled on the idea of Cleveleys/Bispham/Norbrook.
I've taken care of my Dads little dog. A cute Pomeranian. An Aunty was looking after it after Dad passed. She's cute, likes nothing better than sitting on my lap, but is very anti social. The dog that is, not my Aunty. She will be a nightmare on Cleveleys High St, yapping at all the other dogs. But I'm looking forward to it. And the bike riding. And the coffee shops. And the £5 cinema.

It's just finding somewhere now? Only looking at places close to the seafront. Its very bungalow-y round there. Bispham has more, larger semi detached, townhouses for sale.

I did put an offer in on a place in Bispham but it was rejected yesterday.
What's your thoughts on Bispham? It seems ok, not quite got the prom that Cleveleys has. Its not too rough though is it? Not too many staffies off lead on the seafront there? I lost a dog, and having a new one, I'm a bit nervous of other dogs off lead. That's why Cleveleys looked great, lots of signs saying dogs have to be on lead on the seafront. But didn't see anything like that in Bispham?

bouicca21

Sounds wierd, but things like going into a garden when the neighbours are a few feet away, i'd hide inside and not go out. Its very wierd ha, but thats what social anxiety does.

I wouldn't count myself as having major problems with social anxiety, but I too hate having to deal with neighbours when I'm in the garden. I like 6 foot fences and privacy to read a book and drink my tea/coffee/wine without interruption!


I hope you find your ideal place Hollysocks.

mangog

Norwich is a beautiful small city that you can get around easily without a car. My husband and I have never learnt to drive and we've lived here happily for about 15 years! Gorgeous medieval city with a relaxed vibe but still plenty going on, and all walkable. The council have recently invested in cycle paths and admittedly they're not perfect but there is movement in the right direction! You can get a little Victorian terrace in the city for under £200k (it'll be more if you want to be in the trendy 'Golden Triangle' but the rest of the city is just as nice) and when you want to pop to the sea or enjoy the Norfolk countryside just hop on a bus or a train. I love it here!

datlex

Bass_9 wrote: »

The North East is lovely- we have decent areas, are close to the sea, the surrounding countryside is beautiful, and we're generally pretty friendly too.

Once you have decided on an area you want to go for, it might be a good idea to start another thread to ask about specific areas to target, or avoid.

Hope this is the start of something exciting/positive for you.

Places like Brotton in East Cleveland are very cheap, though you have to be aware of the fog at times. In land a bit parts of Middlesbrough are nice with decent cycle routes.

MysteryMe

Norwich has had so much redevelopment much of the character has gone. I lived there for several years and it's OK but the OP can do much better with the other locations already mentioned IMO.