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New plan...time to see some movement!

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Debt Free Diaries
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  • jwiljwil Forumite
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    I normally lurk but just wanted to say that anxiety is a very real, very actual issue. It's something that can be crippling and think about it this way...you're doing the NHS a favour by speaking about it, both in terms of letting them help you get better before it gets any worse, and by helping them realise how many people are suffering from it. You're not alone in your anxiety and it's really important that the NHS recognise that it's a problem so that they can do something about it, including improving mental health support service funding.

    Hope you feel better soon :)

    Thank you for delurking, and that's a good point. I hate the fact that mental health support is so poorly funded in this country, but didn't think that reporting my own issues might make a (small) difference, thank you!
    Anxiety is a real issue Jwil so you shouldn't feel bad about it. I used to get anxious about all kinds of things and especially abou harm coming to my children. I worried about them being kidnapped, getting lost, falling on their heads, and all kinds of silly things. I worry about DS3 at uni and if I don't hear from him every day I worry that something has happened to him. I know it's silly but I can't seem to help it.

    So you're not alone in worrying about things and talking does help a lot. So definitely mention it to the doctor as it obviously affects you and why suffer in silence if you can get help :).

    Thank you. That's how I feel, my worries are silly, but I can't help it.
    Hi Jwil, well done on making the appointment to speak to your GP.

    Thank you. It's not for a week and a bit yet, but I'm relieved just to know it's coming up.
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
  • jwiljwil Forumite
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    abba1772 wrote: »
    Glad you've made the appointment jwil.........I've suffered anxiety all my life starting developing OCD as well but I found having my third child kind of kicked that to the kerb as I was exhausted trying to keep up with everything now I'm a bit more relaxed as long as I have a clean house by the end of the day I'm happy xx

    My anxiety is overthinking, I think of scenarios if I have to make a decision which then splits into two outcomes and keeps multiplying til I get a sore head and very upset.when things don't go to plan

    I'm glad you're more relaxed now. I overthink things too. Mine hits me in the digestive system, I can't eat or drink and just want to curl up and go to sleep (not easy with 2 small kids!). It's scary how quickly it hits me, just one trigger and that's it, even if I was fine a few minutes before.
    Robin09 wrote: »
    All my life I have considered myself a total wimp. I don't like going out of my comfort zone. It hasn't been until DS started having issues and lots of different people saying he has signs of OCD and anxiety that I realised I probably have always had it too, I had never really thought about it much before. I think it's been even worse for me since he has been like it too, as I feel totally hopeless in not being to help him. I find things that I coped better with before, I now struggle with.

    I'm another who has a intense fear of sickness bugs, after having been hit by some very nasty ones over the years. Hope little Jwil is feeling better.

    I hope you don't think you are a wimp, you are definitely not! I don't like being out of my comfort zone, but I've got used to forcing myself to do it (that's one thing that 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' really achieved for me).

    Have you asked for help with yours? I can see that little jwil gets anxious easily about things, and I don't want him to be like me. It's very difficult knowing how to handle it and help them.

    I thought I was a complete freak being worried about sickness bugs - much as I hate anyone to feel the same way, you have made me not feel so alone.
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
  • jwiljwil Forumite
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    Thank you everyone for the support, I really appreciate it :A
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
  • WannabeFreeWannabeFree Forumite
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    jwil wrote: »
    Thank you lovely. I feel silly especially as other people (including you) have actual issues to worry about :o

    I echo the other's about this, however everyone has issues and I think the majority of the time if you look you can always find someone in a better/worse situation that ourselves. However that doesn't mean our issues/problems/situations don't matter or that we don't need help to resolve them.

    You matter more than anything in your own situation and be that the anxiety/debt or anything else that needs working on that's the most important thing to you.

    Take care
    x

    ETA. I'm glad Little miss is feeling better too
    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”
  • IgamogamIgamogam Forumite
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    Just butting in! I dont have nor ever have had anxiety in the sense it stops me getting on but I empathise with those who do. I do however have pernicious anaemia and auto immune disorder which means I cant adsorb B12. After a lot of research I now completely ignore my GP and treat myself - I have gone from feeling I was actually dying to almost back to where I was. I feel it has been at the root of why I couldnt get a grip of my debt issues in the first place. Anyway, why I am butting in is, that a lot of people who have PA also have issues with anxiety and during the course of my research I found on various forums people reporting it had improved once they were treated CORRECTLY - which usually means going it alone - for deficiencies such as vit D folate and vit B12. Unfortunately it is not as easy has just popping a few vitamins but it might be something to consider. Good luck and keep up the positive posts :)
    Be the change you want to see -with apologies to Gandhi :o
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  • HairyHandofDartmoorHairyHandofDartmoor Forumite
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    Igamogam wrote: »
    Just butting in! I dont have nor ever have had anxiety in the sense it stops me getting on but I empathise with those who do. I do however have pernicious anaemia and auto immune disorder which means I cant adsorb B12. After a lot of research I now completely ignore my GP and treat myself - I have gone from feeling I was actually dying to almost back to where I was. I feel it has been at the root of why I couldnt get a grip of my debt issues in the first place. Anyway, why I am butting in is, that a lot of people who have PA also have issues with anxiety and during the course of my research I found on various forums people reporting it had improved once they were treated CORRECTLY - which usually means going it alone - for deficiencies such as vit D folate and vit B12. Unfortunately it is not as easy has just popping a few vitamins but it might be something to consider. Good luck and keep up the positive posts :)

    How did you find out that you had PA Igamogam?
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £1,500/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £50/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £144.37/£500
    PREMIUM BONDS ME = £300. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300
  • IgamogamIgamogam Forumite
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    How did you find out that you had PA Igamogam?


    GP finally gave in and did all the blood tests! Wanted to treat me for depression, stomach ulcers,reflux etc etc or suggested it was ME, age, lifestyle, stressful job, weight etc and I refused it all ( awkward is my middle name) and saved the NHS a whole load of money to boot:D
    Be the change you want to see -with apologies to Gandhi :o
    In gardens, beauty is a by-product. The main business is sex and death. ~Sam Llewelyn
    'On the internet no one knows you are a cat' :) ;)
  • HairyHandofDartmoorHairyHandofDartmoor Forumite
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    Igamogam wrote: »
    GP finally gave in and did all the blood tests! Wanted to treat me for depression, stomach ulcers,reflux etc etc or suggested it was ME, age, lifestyle, stressful job, weight etc and I refused it all ( awkward is my middle name) and saved the NHS a whole load of money to boot:D

    It's lucky you insisted. Sometimes you do have to self-diagnose!
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 😱 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017 :T 🎉
    EMERGENCY FUND 1 = £1,500/£5,000. EMERGENCY FUND 2 = £50/£5,000.
    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £144.37/£500
    PREMIUM BONDS ME = £300. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300
  • jwiljwil Forumite
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    I echo the other's about this, however everyone has issues and I think the majority of the time if you look you can always find someone in a better/worse situation that ourselves. However that doesn't mean our issues/problems/situations don't matter or that we don't need help to resolve them.

    You matter more than anything in your own situation and be that the anxiety/debt or anything else that needs working on that's the most important thing to you.

    Take care
    x

    ETA. I'm glad Little miss is feeling better too
    x

    Thank you, you are completely right of course :o xx
    Igamogam wrote: »
    Just butting in! I dont have nor ever have had anxiety in the sense it stops me getting on but I empathise with those who do. I do however have pernicious anaemia and auto immune disorder which means I cant adsorb B12. After a lot of research I now completely ignore my GP and treat myself - I have gone from feeling I was actually dying to almost back to where I was. I feel it has been at the root of why I couldnt get a grip of my debt issues in the first place. Anyway, why I am butting in is, that a lot of people who have PA also have issues with anxiety and during the course of my research I found on various forums people reporting it had improved once they were treated CORRECTLY - which usually means going it alone - for deficiencies such as vit D folate and vit B12. Unfortunately it is not as easy has just popping a few vitamins but it might be something to consider. Good luck and keep up the positive posts :)

    Thank you for butting in! I appreciate it :) Do you know, I've just looked up the symptoms of pernicious anaemia and I don't really have those, so I don't think it's that, but I did read something a while ago about vitamin D deficiency and I did have a lot of symptoms from that. I've been taking a multivitamin since, but wonder whether I ought to try a higher dose of Vit d. I might mention it when I go to the docs. I've always had blood tests when pregnant and didn't come up with anything then. I'll do a bit more reading. Thank you for the suggestion!
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
  • jwiljwil Forumite
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    How did you find out that you had PA Igamogam?
    Igamogam wrote: »
    GP finally gave in and did all the blood tests! Wanted to treat me for depression, stomach ulcers,reflux etc etc or suggested it was ME, age, lifestyle, stressful job, weight etc and I refused it all ( awkward is my middle name) and saved the NHS a whole load of money to boot:D
    It's lucky you insisted. Sometimes you do have to self-diagnose!

    I think it's brilliant you insisted. I'm a bit of a wuss sometimes, so I'll have to read up if I think I want anything so I'm informed enough.
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
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