I feel bad about this but...

Sponge_Cake

My DP has proposed to me today. We’ve got a baby on the way, due October and it wasn’t a complete surprise. We bought a house a few months ago. Everything is going well.
However, I really don’t like the ring sad I feel so ungrateful for saying this. I’m assuming it’s second hand as it’s got some pretty bad tarnishing/scuff marks on it and it’s just not my style at all.

Of course I’m not going to say anything to him. The ring isn’t what matters really, but deep down, I’m a tiny bit disappointed.

Rachel83

Feel like its a repeat of the twitter engagement ring thread!

Honestly just tell him? Go shopping for a new one, or just learn to live with it? Maybe its a family ring?

Sponge_Cake

I feel too awful to tell him. He!!!8217;s very sensitive about these sorts of things. Could I take it to a shop to be tidied up?

Rachel83

Depends on your definition of tidying up?

Doesnt bode well if your having a child getting married and you cant even discuss a ring you are going to be wearing forever. Sorry a little blunt, but Im not sure what else you can do? And surely taking the ring somewhere to be tidied up whatever that means would mean you will have to have the conversation why its not on your finger for a period of time, therefore bringing about another possibly awkward conversation if he is a sensitive person?

DCFC79

Rachel83 wrote: »

Depends on your definition of tidying up?

Doesnt bode well if your having a child getting married and you cant even discuss a ring you are going to be wearing forever. Sorry a little blunt, but Im not sure what else you can do? And surely taking the ring somewhere to be tidied up whatever that means would mean you will have to have the conversation why its not on your finger for a period of time, therefore bringing about another possibly awkward conversation if he is a sensitive person?

Then there would be the conversation IF the ring would be lost by the jewellers.


I agree with what you say Rachel.

Smellyonion

Is it the ring itself that is tarnished or the stone? Imperfections are usually noticeable in larger diamonds when the clarity is low.

Poor_Single_lady

Not to be awkward but if you knew this was on the cards why didn't you explain what you would like. Then he would have known.
could you put up with it for a while and then suggest a change further down the line- In 6 months or whatever.

Sponge_Cake

Here!!!8217;s a picture of said ring

Sponge_Cake

Chrisv

gettingtheresometime

My take is that you've got a baby on the way & just bought a house.....2 fairly expensive events.

Could it be that he's bought a ring - which may not have been his first choice - which he can afford rather than would have chosen to have bought?

Also remember that, apparently the father is expected to present the mother with an eternity ring on the birth of the child.

Or could it be an heirloom?