Lost the will to sieve : (

fibernie

Sympathies - pnd is so horrible, have been there.
A way to cut corners with your 9m old? My daughter was a spoon refuser so she was only on finger food at that age... this meant she ate what we ate, cutting out any need for mashing etc - turned out to be very convenient, which was great as I am essentially a lazy sod.
Lots of finger foody recipes for the whole family at http://www.babyledweaning.com
Also, do you have Nigel Slater's book, Real Fast Food? It has soooo many excellent ideas for meals from storecupboard ingredients, which can be made really quickly.

pigpen

Mine never had anything mashed/pureéd or whatevered.. finger food only.. if they wanted solids they had to feed themselves. Ib would assist if they wanted cereal or something sloppy.. but they did pretty well on their own, I ain't got scrawny children!.. but heck they made a mess!! I'd be spooning breakfast and supper but lunch and dinner I'd had finger foods en masse.. or should that be en mess!?

As for yourself... speaking as a very experienced PND sufferer.. get out of the house.. plan it the day before.. get the bag of swag and buggy and everything ready then go.. don't think about it or dwell on it or you bottle it. Just run.. toddler groups, window shopping, the park, a walk out for milk etc.. and force yoursel fon people.. chat to the person on the till. The homeless people that live in the park (most of them are pretty sound!) There is always the 'old faithful'.. the old folks!! Often found adorning park benches.. post offices and open community groups.. most have been there and love to talk to anyone.. you might be the only peson they have spoken to all week!!! Youb are helping them and doing them a favour.

Also.. nag the GP for some multi-vitamins.. now you'll think I am insane.. but having a baby takes so much out of you, moreso if you have another child or 7 to look after.

These are the things I found which REALLY helped.

Basically.. not feeling isolated.. not leaving my body devoid of the things it needed.. sunlight, and nutrients.. and not developing cabin fever!!

Is there anyone here who lives fairly close you could meet up with (I'm in Yorkshire too, but noone ever lives near me! lol)

Lizbetty

Hi everyone

Thanks so much for your lovely replies I'm going to print them off and have a good read through as they all have something very important in them.

My first daughter is almost 2 1/2, I've been at home since she was born in June 05. I must admit, I'm not naturally very motherly - I'd never even held a baby until I had Daisy! I was on eggshells when she was born (I didn't realise she was mine for ages, what with everyone coming round to tell me what I should be doing and health visitors and doctors visiting, etc), and she has had quite a difficult time of it - she cried all the time from birth, had bad colic, then when I'd finished breastfeeding her at 13months, it was because I was pregnant again with dd2! We only got married in September 04 and we were lucky that I got pregnant as soon as we started trying both times. But Daisy is still quite a challenge as she's up most nights (only I can settle her down, she goes ballistic if OH tries), and is of course in full swing with the terrible 2's - not helped by me having Lilian (the titch) stuck to my hip and she also cosleeps at the mo and is still bf, so I can see why Daisy would feel like she's a bit left out. I hate to admit it, but I do find I blame Daisy for a lot of things on the quiet, which is terrible I know. I wondered if it was because it took a while to feel any bond, but with dd2 I felt it straight away. I love them both to bits of course, I just find it harder with dd1.

Me and oh never go out ourselves - he's just gone self employed, and so we're quite strapped (!) although he's much happier than he was. Just knackered. Another reason we don't go out is because both kids are very clingy and only want me to settle them, they work themselves into a frenzy if anyone else tries. DD1 is better than she was - she spends Saturday mornings at my mum and dads now, she wouldn't have anything to do with them before. She sometimes takes 5/10 minutes to warm up now with them, she's quite shy, but it's her age I guess.

Crikey, sorry to go on and on! Just lastly, I tried the mother and baby groups but it just didn't quite work - Daisy was clinging to my leg wanting to be picked up while I was trying to keep Lilian from being trampled by the older kids, and although I come across as the most confident person you can imagine - I'm generally wondering if these people like me, am I talking complete rubbish (probably, lack of sleep..), etc. I just feel like a square peg in a round hole most of the time. I'm wanting Daisy to go to playgroup soon as she loves the company of other kids, which should hopefully make her come out of her shell a lot (dreading the hurdle of me leaving her, but needs must!). I'm not very good at keeping up with friends - I have one who I met at a group who is lovely, and she doesn't mind the fact that I'm rubbish at keeping in touch and talk nonsense when I see her, her son is the same age as Daisy and they like each others company which is lovely. But I don't see her often enough for me to talk to her properly. I'm a bit rubbish as I'm switched on when other folk need help, but I'm rubbish at accepting it myself (or admitting I need it..), so I tend to just not talk to folk when I'm in a bit of a hole.

Anyway, I will print the replies off now and I'm determined at least to do something with the eggs - the Tesco man oddly delivered us a dozen free range organic ones which I didn't order - which is ironic when the chickens are taking over our house and laying eggs all over the place, lol!

Thanks again, and sorry if this is not strictly o/s...I will go and ut a loaf on in the bm to make up for it

Lucy x

LisbonLaura

Hugzzz Lucy.

This may sound daft but it has worked for me.
Put a smile on your lips even though you don't feel like smiling, & keep it there for at least a minute. Just concentrate on it.

Looking at your great title for this thread I'm pretty sure it will work for you

(It's a variation of a Zen technique)

Lizbetty

Hi, just a quick update...I've a spring in my step because I thought I'd lost my Panny recipe book then I found it (slightly reminiscent of Julia Donaldson's Squash and a Squeeze, if you've read it, lol!), so that put me in a good mood :rolleyes: I tried the smile thing but then dd2 ran into the patio window and bumped her head, so I guess I'll have to pick a time when it's safe to smile, lol! It's a good tip though.

I have some bath buns in the bm (never made them - trying with wholemeal as I'm out of white, hope they turn out ok!) which are due for the oven in half an hour. I made some pasta with houmous for dinner for the kids (I fried 2 yellow peppers in the olive oil then stuck that in the blender with a can of chickpeas, juice of half a lemon, a clove of garlic and a bit of hot water and 2 tbps of tahini so it was like a sauce, wondered if I should try with smooth peanut butter as tahini was opened in June...but tasted ok..) and let Lilian (the titch) eat it herself.

Daisy helped so she actually ate some herself instead of wanting me to feed her (lasted two minutes but she did it)!

I think you're replies have given me the kickstart - I am on tablets at the mo tbh, the doc wants me to stay on them through winter but I'm dying to get off them as I think my mood depends on the kids moods/amount of sleep/how bad a mess the house is in/how skint we are, etc. Hopefully getting going and trying not to have thinking time will help, as I'm secretly worried that I might be scared to come off them (been on them about 6 months now).

I'll keep you posted on the bath buns!

Thanks again

Lucy

Lizbetty

pigpen wrote: »

Is there anyone here who lives fairly close you could meet up with (I'm in Yorkshire too, but noone ever lives near me! lol)

Ps I'm in Wakefield btw, Crofton. No one evers lives close to me, either! :rolleyes:

HariboJunkie

Lucyeff wrote: »

Hi, just a quick update...I've a spring in my step because I thought I'd lost my Panny recipe book then I found it (slightly reminiscent of Julia Donaldson's Squash and a Squeeze, if you've read it, lol!), so that put me in a good mood :rolleyes: I tried the smile thing but then dd2 ran into the patio window and bumped her head, so I guess I'll have to pick a time when it's safe to smile, lol! It's a good tip though.

I have some bath buns in the bm (never made them - trying with wholemeal as I'm out of white, hope they turn out ok!) which are due for the oven in half an hour. I made some pasta with houmous for dinner for the kids (I fried 2 yellow peppers in the olive oil then stuck that in the blender with a can of chickpeas, juice of half a lemon, a clove of garlic and a bit of hot water and 2 tbps of tahini so it was like a sauce, wondered if I should try with smooth peanut butter as tahini was opened in June...but tasted ok..) and let Lilian (the titch) eat it herself.

Daisy helped so she actually ate some herself instead of wanting me to feed her (lasted two minutes but she did it)!

I think you're replies have given me the kickstart - I am on tablets at the mo tbh, the doc wants me to stay on them through winter but I'm dying to get off them as I think my mood depends on the kids moods/amount of sleep/how bad a mess the house is in/how skint we are, etc. Hopefully getting going and trying not to have thinking time will help, as I'm secretly worried that I might be scared to come off them (been on them about 6 months now).

I'll keep you posted on the bath buns!

Thanks again

Lucy

Sorry but I'm pmsl at you grinning like a woman possessed. Your lo was probably so startled by you that she ran into the door. :rotfl:

Glad you're feeling better and what lovely names your girls have.

Take care

Haribo x

Lizbetty

Hi everyone! The bath buns I made with wholemeal flour (and a home made egg!) from the panny book were lovely (only 1 left....) so that's a good start!

The bump on dd2's head is huge - good job that my tablets are on repeat, I wouldn't be surprised if the doc sent the hv to visit! :rolleyes: They would have a fit if they saw our tiny back garden...I opened a bale of straw one handed (titch in another arm) in a burst of energy when we got the chickens, intending to sort the run out, etc. Instead, the thing burst open, and the garden is FULL of babbed on straw - I can't lock them in the run cos they look so sad. Bye bye lavender, hello chicken kack.

I wonder if anyone else has taken/is taking antidepressants? I find that I go from having (rare) full days of astonishing capability and enthusiasm, to days of hopelessness. I'm on 50mg of nortriptyline a day (supposed to be ok to take when bf), if I take them late I go a bit wobbly and end up feeling exhausted in a really strange (early pregnancy type tired) way. I have been on pills in the past (the -ertralines and one called Lustral made by Pfizer which was a real happy pill!) but I don't want to take them too long and get reliant on them.

I have some chicken fillets in the fridge that have been there a couple of days and I haven't any inspiration...OH will just stick them in the oven if I don't use them soon (they turn out like dry wash leathers then...). If anyone has any ideas....we have passata, chickpeas, broccoli, cabbage, frozen sweetcorn/peas and I did some baked spuds earlier. I get a bit lost for ideas with meat cos I used to be veggie so I haven't been using it in cooking very long

Also made OH a w/m foccacia yesterday for his snap today - just stuck the stuff in the bm, and then rolled the dough out and stuck some fried onions in there before I put it in the oven, topped it off with sage/olive oil before it went in. You see...bit of support from you lot and I'm rocking and rolling (as dd1 would say..lol).

Haribo, thanks for the compliment on the kiddiwinks names...I sometimes think OH GOD I CALLED HER LILIAN! I do love it, but I love old ladies names, I've got Daisy Dorothy and Lilian Edith. It would have been Mabel but mums cat is called Mabel.....

Lizbetty

Ironing is my second favourite activity in the whole wide world....
Second only to banging my head repeatedly off the kitchen wall. :cool:

ps...love this!!!!! Luckily I can't iron so we just shake stuff a lot..OH did ironing course in RAF so I persuade him that he needs practice to keep it on his CV...

Olliebeak

Lucyeff wrote: »

.......Haribo, thanks for the compliment on the kiddiwinks names...I sometimes think OH GOD I CALLED HER LILIAN! I do love it, but I love old ladies names, I've got Daisy Dorothy and Lilian Edith. It would have been Mabel but mums cat is called Mabel.....

My real name is Olga Lilian and I have yet to forgive my mother for that little stunt! She blames my paternal grandmother for the Olga bit. I mean, come on now, at some point my mother and grandmother looked down at a tiny newborn baby and thought 'Aaaaaaah - she looks just like an 'Olga Lilian'!

All my schoolfriends were Lindas, Pamelas, Gillians, Susans etc. I had never even heard of another 'Olga' until I was 13 when we got new neighbours where the mother and one of the daughters were both 'Olga'.

All my life I have been known as Lilian - but it didn't half cause complications with Dr's/Hospitals, teachers, college, employers, National Insurance etc. I did have a spell in my late teens, when I decided that I would use the 'Olga' part of my name because it sounded 'rather mysterious and secretive' - especially with it being Russian! Didn't help matters when Olga Corbutt became famous - she was little and dainty whereas I was 5'10" and a size 18!

Funny how names come and go in a 'fashion sequence' isn't it.