Donations to Charity

LadyDee

Does anybody know - when sending a donation to the funeral directors instead of flowers (as requested), does the family get a list of the donors, and are the amounts of each donation listed?

Flugelhorn

I think that we did a list for my father's funeral but there was also a plate for cash in the church. For mother's I only did the plate and donations direct to the church so don't know who gave what.

Just out of interest a friend's son died and she had donations sent to directly to her and then, as she sent was sending the money to the charities they were able to claim gift aid.

Mojisola

LadyDee wrote: »

Does anybody know - when sending a donation to the funeral directors instead of flowers (as requested), does the family get a list of the donors, and are the amounts of each donation listed?

We asked for donations to a particular charity after Mum and Dad died.

Some people sent cheques to us and some to the FD but others sent money directly to the charity. We know the payments that were made to us or the FD but not the amounts sent to the charity.

Also, we had a collection box at the service and we have no idea who put money into that or how much they gave.

Keep_pedalling

We have just received a statement of charitable donations from the FD, in regard of my mother. It lists the people who made donations through them, but only an overall amount no amounts given by individuals.

carlislelass

We got a list of names with a final total.Why do you want to know who gave what amount?

Mojisola

LadyDee wrote: »

Does anybody know - when sending a donation to the funeral directors instead of flowers (as requested), does the family get a list of the donors, and are the amounts of each donation listed?

carlislelass wrote: »

Why do you want to know who gave what amount?

I thought it might be the other way - that LadyDee didn't want the recipients to know the amount that she will give.

Owain_Moneysaver

I suppose the funeral directors want, not unreasonably, to forestall any accusation that they're supplementing the staff biscuit fund.

Brynsam

We received a list of names + the total given.

SevenOfNine

I imagine this must be at the FD's discretion or if you have specifically asked one way or the other.

We have used the same FD twice with the 'donations' option. Though we had no idea what the process was, & did not ask. The first time the FD set up on-line donating with a link on their webpage which bounced to a Just Giving type page, cheques to FD (made out to the charity) or cash. Both the latter to their offices or in a bowl at the crematorium.

At the wake I'd organised a proper charity collection box from the chosen charity & a local rep for the national charity offered to drop it off to me, we had a 'free bar' so I placed it on there with a photograph. After I counted it I lobbed it through the FD webpage link, accredited it to the 'bar' donations & claimed gift aid because I didn't give a stuff that I was not supposed to.

We could of course view the Giving type site, so I had been printing the pages, names/donations/messages (primarily for the latter).

We received a list of names & individuals amounts donated via cheque/cash, with the final total including the webpage total. Even most of the cash had names with it, presume people stick it in an envelope?

The second time it was FiL in his 90's, so the options were just cheque/cash. Again, a full list of names & individual amounts (where possible) was sent to us.

Both times cheques/cash went directly from the FD to the charities. FD told us when receipt of monies & webpage had been wrapped up & both charities wrote thank you letters shortly afterwards.

TBH, I found it interesting to see not just who, but how much had been given by each individual. I was literally staggered by the generosity from unexpected quarters, & the absolute stinginess from others!

The only mistake that was made was the charity box on the bar. The rep had became a blo ody nuisance, pestering to 'help' us by being the contact for the donations being collected by the deceased's manager on a national level (so we "wouldn't have to worry about it"). Pestering for the 'Giving' sit to be wrapped up, pestering as to when the donations would be 'all in' & to 'help' by forwarding them to the charity to save FD doing it.

She got short shrift & a very rude NO. All she got was the charity box back once I'd emptied it. Had the reasons explained only recently, the local rep will get a cut from donations she can claim she collected, hence the eagerness to try to take credit for a whole lot more than had been put in the charity box she supplied. Hopefully she never even got that!

Savvy_Sue

SevenOfNine wrote: »

The only mistake that was made was the charity box on the bar. The rep had became a blo ody nuisance, pestering to 'help' us by being the contact for the donations being collected by the deceased's manager on a national level (so we "wouldn't have to worry about it"). Pestering for the 'Giving' sit to be wrapped up, pestering as to when the donations would be 'all in' & to 'help' by forwarding them to the charity to save FD doing it.

She got short shrift & a very rude NO. All she got was the charity box back once I'd emptied it. Had the reasons explained only recently, the local rep will get a cut from donations she can claim she collected, hence the eagerness to try to take credit for a whole lot more than had been put in the charity box she supplied. Hopefully she never even got that!

I'd just like to say that that is not ALWAYS what happens: as a local charity, we'd just give you a bucke or a tin, and while someone would liaise with you over delivery and collection and offer any help we could, no-one would be getting a cut of anything!