After rehoming .........

funny.money

Due to a relationship break between my ex son-in-law and his new partner he needs to rehome his dog (he is the father of my granddaughter so therefore the dog has always been in her life too). Fortunately for us all and the dog she has a lovely new home, locally, with a great family who have land, dogs, chickens, horses etc etc.

Now to the point...... the new people have said that my granddaughter and her father are more than welcome to visit the dog, see her, take her for walks....... but we all want what is best for the dog..... will this just confuse and upset her, should they stay away?

Silvertabby

funny.money wrote: »

Due to a relationship break between my ex son-in-law and his new partner he needs to rehome his dog (he is the father of my granddaughter so therefore the dog has always been in her life too). Fortunately for us all and the dog she has a lovely new home, locally, with a great family who have land, dogs, chickens, horses etc etc.

Now to the point...... the new people have said that my granddaughter and her father are more than welcome to visit the dog, see her, take her for walks....... but we all want what is best for the dog..... will this just confuse and upset her, should they stay away?

Probably. The dog may feel that she is being abandoned all over again when they leave after each visit. She sounds as though she has landed on her paws with her new owners, so I'd just leave it at that.

pollyanna24

I'd say different. Dogs just like attention don't they? Maybe wait a while till the dog is settled in the new house?

SensibleSarah

Depends on the individual dog. Might be worth giving the dog a while to bond with new family (a few weeks) and then try a visit. Ask the new owners how the dog behaved afterwards and if all seems fine, it's probably fine to keep visiting. If dog was really stressed afterwards, spends hours pacing and whining etc then maybe that should be the last visit.

My dog wouldn't cope at all because she's so routine-oriented and takes her security from that - so any changes to normal location or people and she can't deal. Normal sociable dogs would probably be perfectly happy with two lots of attention though

Red-Squirrel_2

Leave them be, not fair on the dog, the new owners (who probably don't really mean it and are just being polite) or the child to keep re-opening old wounds.

The adults should just apologise profusely to the poor girl for letting her down so badly by taking her beloved dog away from her and then try to move on.

elsien

I think it's probably one of those kind offers that people make and mean at the time, then when the reality hits of previous owners wanting to turn up at inconvenient times or more often than envisaged they wish they hadn't.
The dog will probably be fine, but it is likely to be easier on the granddaughter to move on, and just say hello as, when and if they see them around.

sheramber

It would depend on the dog - but most adjust to new owners- and the previous owner.

Not a good idea unless the previous owner could detach himself from the dog and walk away without making a fuss. They must accept they are no loner the owner.

My rescue was in foster care from 4 weeks until 12 weeks so was the only home he had known. His foster carer was deeply upset when we adopted him, she was so in love with him.

We met up again when he was 6 months old. Although he was delighted to meet her ( and she him) he was not upset when we parted company.

We are still in touch 13 years later. She visited us when he was 2 years old. He recognised her and again was delighted to see her but was not upset when she left.

I would not consider for at least 6 months to let the dog settle with new family and for the previous owner time to detach from the dog.

For some people and some dogs it would not be a good idea