Inheritance

chesky

Pafosp wrote: »

My ex has come into a small inheritance.

How small is small? (ish)

ska_lover

Pollycat wrote: »

Or pensions?


I'd agree with your post if it wasn't for the debts.
Why should one ex-partner play fair if the other won't?

Yes I agree - the outstanding debt shouldn't be wiped clean if it was agreed it would be paid back - maybe the OP could chase this up separately as Hazy Jo says

caprikid1

Sorry but you have to remember that this board is inherently sexist.


Turn it around "My husband had an affair, he has now left me, I paid all his debts. He has just got a small inheritance coming.


What should I do ?"

System

Are you in contact with your ex?

Perhaps a word in her shell that you know she's had some inheritance and that you would like some money towards the debts you paid on her behalf now she can afford to contribute. If she clams up or tells you to get lost, remind her that you could go for it anyway and maybe a lot of it would get sucked up by solicitors.

Workd out exactly where you are financially after the split compared to her and ask her to even it out.

gettingtheresometime

caprikid1 wrote: »

Sorry but you have to remember that this board is inherently sexist.


Turn it around "My husband had an affair, he has now left me, I paid all his debts. He has just got a small inheritance coming.


What should I do ?"

And my answer would be the same. Would yours?

Pollycat

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

And my answer would be the same. Would yours?

And so would mine.

hazyjo

Pollycat wrote: »

And so would mine.

And mine. Unless someone says 'he' 'she' etc, I rarely even stop to think about what sex the person is.


My advice would be exactly the same thank you. I really hate it when people make assumptions on the back of nothing other than their own chips on shoulders.

ska_lover

caprikid1 wrote: »

Sorry but you have to remember that this board is inherently sexist.


Turn it around "My husband had an affair, he has now left me, I paid all his debts. He has just got a small inheritance coming.


What should I do ?"

Calling BS on this.

Do you have anything useful to add?

thorsoak

Have you both been paying into pension schemes? Use that as a bargaining tool - you won't go for her inheritance if she doesn't go for your pension.

74jax

caprikid1 wrote: »

Sorry but you have to remember that this board is inherently sexist.


Turn it around "My husband had an affair, he has now left me, I paid all his debts. He has just got a small inheritance coming.


What should I do ?"

But that is my situation and as I said in my post (post #7) I classed his inheritance from HIS dad as just that (his), he was my FIL not dad.


I don't know why my answer would be different if I was male?