ESA Assessment soon. Think I'm going to fail. I need some advice please

Morglin

MIND have a crisis support telephone line, and they will give you some help with all this, and you can talk to them without going out:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/telephone-support/

Lioness_Twinkletoes

I am sorry you're having such problems but I am sure you understand that the Government can't just give money to people because they say they need it. Evidence is required. Further to this, you clearly need a lot of help and support and should be making the effort to get that help.

Tabbytabitha

Nannytone wrote: »

Something isn't adding up here.

You haven't paid rent in a long time but the landlord isn't making any attempt to evict yo you say you haven't completed an esa50 form and yet there's made an appointment for a work capability assessment?

They wouldn't assess you at all if you didn't return the esa50 they would just cancel your claim

And the LL won't let the OP claim housing benefit but has let them live rent free for years because they aren't doing so.

paragon909

DramaQueen123 wrote: »

Perhaps you shouldn't judge people when you don't have a clue. Just because some things may be easy for you to handle, doesn't mean they are for everyone.

It isn't easy to handle. It's called planning ahead! Regardless of anxiety or depression sometime you need to plan ahead. My first ESA assessment went disastrously wrong for many reasons. When I went back they put me in the support group after failing a court appeal as well! Sometimes you just need to do something, Otherwise the future consequences will be alot worse than doing what your doing right now.

Depression and anxiety isn't all about being lazy or not having the will to do something you know. Many different mental aspects of it.

DramaQueen123

paragon909 wrote: »

It isn't easy to handle. It's called planning ahead! Regardless of anxiety or depression sometime you need to plan ahead. My first ESA assessment went disastrously wrong for many reasons. When I went back they put me in the support group after failing a court appeal as well! Sometimes you just need to do something, Otherwise the future consequences will be alot worse than doing what your doing right now.

Depression and anxiety isn't all about being lazy or not having the will to do something you know. Many different mental aspects of it.

Exactly. Maybe what you consider is being lazy or not having the will to plan ahead for someone else is much too difficult to deal with. There's many different mental aspects of it.

paragon909

DramaQueen123 wrote: »

Exactly. Maybe what you consider is being lazy or not having the will to plan ahead for someone else is much too difficult to deal with. There's many different mental aspects of it.

Well as others said maybe you should be more proactive in your decisions and actions. Like maybe seeing your GP once in a while. I either went to your assessment, They will ask you what medication you take for your problems, When you last seen GP's, Specialists or anything like that.

Maybe getting them to do a home visit to a messy home with claims of depression and anxiety might of gone in your favour more actually!

DramaQueen123

paragon909 wrote: »

Well as others said maybe you should be more proactive in your decisions and actions. Like maybe seeing your GP once in a while. I either went to your assessment, They will ask you what medication you take for your problems, When you last seen GP's, Specialists or anything like that.

Maybe getting them to do a home visit to a messy home with claims of depression and anxiety might of gone in your favour more actually!

Maybe I'd rather not torture and humiliate myself just because it'll look good on paper when I already have enough problems, and maybe being proactive isn't as easy for everyone as you suggest. As you said before, there's many different mental aspects to it.

Lioness_Twinkletoes

DramaQueen123 wrote: »

Maybe I'd rather not torture and humiliate myself just because it'll look good on paper when I already have enough problems, and maybe being proactive isn't as easy for everyone as you suggest. As you said before, there's many different mental aspects to it.

Then sadly you run the risk of not getting better and potentially having your money stopped as you've failed to prove your inability to work. It's your call at the end of the day.

paragon909

DramaQueen123 wrote: »

Maybe I'd rather not torture and humiliate myself just because it'll look good on paper when I already have enough problems, and maybe being proactive isn't as easy for everyone as you suggest. As you said before, there's many different mental aspects to it.

There is, Many confuse depression with being lazy... Maybe look at your life and come to a conclusion. If you can't engage with anyone, Engage with yourself, Then how can you expect to think you will get any better.

You going to sit in your little messy flat all your life, Wallowing in self pity. Get a grip and stop being a drama queen. You even trolled yourself by using such name.

IS this even a serious post.

Did you go for your assessment yet, How was it?

DramaQueen123

paragon909 wrote: »

There is, Many confuse depression with being lazy... Maybe look at your life and come to a conclusion. If you can't engage with anyone, Engage with yourself, Then how can you expect to think you will get any better.

You going to sit in your little messy flat all your life, Wallowing in self pity. Get a grip and stop being a drama queen. You even trolled yourself by using such name.

IS this even a serious post.

Did you go for your assessment yet, How was it?

I don't care about getting better. I just need some help dealing with some of the things I struggle to do myself. I've tried getting help and it didn't work. I've been to counselling, a psychiatrist, psychologist, been on various medications. Nobody knows how to help me and they've given up on what to do. I've accepted that I'm going to be like this until I some day probably take my own life. I have no plans for suicide right now but I'm fairly sure unless some major illness gets me in the next few years, that'll probably be my ultimate fate.

Yes I went to the assessment and I don't know how it went. I prefer the woman who did my assessment last time. The one I saw today just seemed very cold and robotic. Just asking questions from a script like if I'm able to make a cup of tea, but didn't really seem to ask much about how the depression and anxiety effects me, so I had to make a point to try bring up some of the ways it effects me myself. When I found out about my appointment last week I made some notes of things I could think of that might help