lodgers possessions/rent owed

catalonia13

I'm not expecting the money back, kissed that goodbye months ago, hence very surprised when he got in touch last month offering it!

catalonia13

he says "I will just have to persue (sic) it through the police which I'm already well aware I can do"

Pixie5740

You can spend your money on whatever you like...even if you owe people money. It's immoral (depending on which way your moral compass points) but not illegal.

What do you have to gain from keeping hold of his games? It's sounds a bit petty over a £65 debt owed by a young man who sounds quite vulnerable even if he has behaved like a twit.

[Deleted User]

You have my sympathy. I offered a friend of a friend a home when they seemed desperate. He disappeared along with everything valuable I owned (which wasn't much, I was definitely a low income earner but the stuff wasn't stuff I could replace because of this, because a rented Colour Tv and valuable camera given as an 18th B'day present was part of it, it added up - yes it was decades ago lol).

I believe he got £100 for it and spent it on drugs. Never saw him again and the friendship didn't last much longer either. I finally realised these people don't live by the same criteria I do. Didn't even realise that was part of the problem at the time.

I never offered help again, learned a lot from that little lesson lol.

He hasn't done the right thing, but you can. You are different to him. Get his support worker to collect the remaining games and just put the experience out of your mind except as a 'will never do that again' thing. Be grateful its only £65. Cheap lesson, to be honest.

catalonia13

sorry to hear of your experience deannatrois, I guess I got off lightly really, it's so hard though, when you invest a lot of time and effort into helping someone get back on their feet!

Smodlet

I don't know how much this bothers you, OP, but this individual knows where you live. Are you absolutely certain he no longer has a key to your place? I would definitely consider changing the locks. He might come back for his games while you are out and take a whole lot more besides.

Return his tat, chalk it up, move on. It is a horrible lesson to learn that the world is full of entitled scum but it is a fact and one I learned late in life, too. The sooner this creature is out of your life completely, the better. This will not happen while you still have his property as he is legally entitled to its return.

ashe

I'd return his games but not before putting a few scratches on each DVD.

LocoLoco

catalonia13 wrote: »

sorry to hear of your experience deannatrois, I guess I got off lightly really, it's so hard though, when you invest a lot of time and effort into helping someone get back on their feet!

I just wanted to say that I don't think it's stupid that you helped him out, I think it was very kind and generous of you and it's a real shame that he's behaved the way he has (particularly as it's probably put you off helping out someone else in the same situation who might really appreciate it). I'd just give him his stuff and draw a line under it; it sounds as if any continuing involvement with him will just cause stress and other problems and it isn't worth the hassle (although I understand completely how you feel about the situation - it isn't nice when someone treats you badly after you do them a big favour). He's daft not to have made the most of the opportunity you gave him

G_M

catalonia13 wrote: »

I'm not expecting the money back, kissed that goodbye months ago, hence very surprised when he got in touch last month offering it!

I doubt the police will be interested.. It's a civil, not criminal, matter.

Are you absolutely certain he no longer has a key to your place? I would definitely consider changing the locks.

Definately!

catalonia13

LOL Ashe, as if such a thing would cross my mind!
yes, the locks got changed