Responsible for bills brother in parents house

Yorkshireman99

Jeanie_84 wrote: »

As your parents are both living it would advisable to discuss your concerns as a family.

I don't know your brothers situation but on the surely it would also be in his interest to think about the potential situation he could find himself in. So to avoid any future issues with your brother than now is an opportunity to secure both your futures.

It would cost you to force a sale.

There are also unknown factors such as why has he never worked or claimed any benefits? Whilst I am sure it is not a unique situation I cant help wondering if the sooner all concerned faced the reality the better it would be even though it may be very, very, difficult indeed.

Silvertabby

As your parents are both living it would advisable to discuss your concerns as a family.

I don't know your brothers situation but on the surely it would also be in his interest to think about the potential situation he could find himself in. So to avoid any future issues with your brother than now is an opportunity to secure both your futures.

It would cost you to force a sale.
Originally posted by Jeanie_84

Sea_Shell wrote: »

The worry there is that if you really spell it out in black & white to your Mum & Dad what might happen...they may decide to leave the house 100% to your Brother, because he NEEDS it!!!!

Exactly what happened to me. My sister (living with dad, but had her own business) 'pursuaded' dad to leave the house to her alone 'because I was married and had my own (albeit mortgaged) house'.

In hindsight, this was probably the best result for me. The house was in a poor state of repair, and I know if it had been left to the two of us I would have been hammered with bills for essential maintenance plus all the utilities on the grounds that my sister didn't believe in paying bills.

Her business, such as it was, went bankrupt within 2 years of dad's death and she lost the lot.

buildersdaughter

I agree that you need to have a conversation with your parents about your brother's future - or possibly ask another family member to help.
You haven't said if he has any sort of special needs - if so, he needs to be 'flagged up' to Adult Social Services. although they are unlikely to do anything much at present, he will be on their 'list' should anything happen to your parents.
If he is of sound mind and has no disabilities, then he needs to be aware that he will be responsible for himself.
So much is black and white. Sometimes what happens is that someone with borderline special needs / mental illness gets cared for (usually by parents) in such a way that they never trigger any health or social needs in the wider world, and the family coast along until sudden death or illness.
Your parents may not quite realise the implications of leaving you part of the house (or maybe they do, and are avoiding the problem!).

Broadly speaking, without knowing personal circumstances, this can't really be good for your parents or your brother. If he is unable to hold down a job, or to understand what benefits he may be entitled to, or how to manage any conditions he has, then you do need to talk to someone.

I do wish you luck.