Problem with Neighbours

sundropstar

My DH Works nights and we have 2 kids and a dog. If he needs to get a proper 'days' sleep, he wears earplugs and puts his phone on vibrate to wake him up.
She has chosen to work a job with shifts and can't expect everyone around her to tippie toe so she can sleep. I think she is being quite selfish, especially if your noise isn't in excess of the norm.

WTF?_2

BettiePage wrote: »

Lets hope she never nurses you or yours then with having had little/disturbed sleep.

If someone works nightshifts they can't reasonably expect neighbours and the rest of the world to take this into account and alter their daily routines to suit.

If I was in the situation of the OP I'd certainly make an effort not to do anything particularly noisy if I knew the neighbour was on nights but I still wouldn't change my regular daily activities as she is the one out of step with everyone else.

It's tough luck on her but she has chosen to do a job which involves night working, so she has to deal with the consequences. From the sound of the OP he is quieter and more considerate than most people would be. I suspect when he moves out or if she goes somewhere else, she may well get a taste of how lucky she was to have a decent neighbour.

wherediditallgo

plane_boy2000 wrote: »

Reminds me of my first place - flat in a block of six - three high. Woman above me used to have really loud sex at 2 in the morning which was a bit of a nightmare, but I am sure she would have been horified if she thought the noise was traveling, but the worst bit was when my GF came over the bloke on the other side of the corridor thought it was me and kept making comments about us keeping the noise down nudge nudge wink wink and making a joke of it!!!!

When one couple moved in near us years ago, they used to go at it morning, noon & night, no holds barred. You'd have thought someone was being murdered for the noise that was coming out of the flat. In the end, my OH recorded them, then went round each of the flats & said he'd heard ghosts howling the night before - he played the tape loudly & asked the residents if they'd heard similar sounds. Everyone knew what the sounds were & struggled not to laugh, especially when he said he was going to ask all the residents & play the tape to each of them. When he got to the flat in question, the woman was purple with embarrassment within milliseconds of him starting the tape & slammed the door shut. That was the end of that.

loobylou2

Hi, sorry if I"m not posting in the right place here but I could really do with a bit of advice. I live in a council semi with my husband who at 71 is a lot older than me (we"ve been together for 12 years now!!!) and 3 kids aged 10,8 and nearly 2. We have a big back garden which is unfenced and leads onto a field and a large back window as well as a front one in our living room. We also have a next door neighbour with an 8 year old son who keeps coming and peering in through the back window and also throwing stones despite repeated requests from myself (and I mean repeated this has been going on for nearly 2 years now!!!) to stop. I"m quite a nervy person and I find it really unsettling to come into my living rom and constantly be seeing this child looking through my window. Hes like a minature peeping tom, also he tells lies and is a bit of a bully which is why I don"t like my children to play with him, also he uses some colourful language on occasion. This afternoon being warm and sunny I had my usual performance of having to go out and tell him to stop coming into our garden and looking through the window. I even closed the curtains on him at one point and turned the light on but when I opened them again 5 minutes later he was there again. The problem is that later this afternoon his mother decided that it would be a good idea knock on my door and have a go at me for allegedly taunting her son!!! I had previously said to him that if he didn"t stop I would contact the police as being only 8 I thought that the idea of authority being involved might scare him off. She also is now claiming that he only came into our garden to get his ball back therefore completely disregarding the numerous occasions he has come into our garden previously and thrown stones at the window too!!! I"m completely fed up with the situation, it makes me feel like a goldfish so I did say that if he came into our garden again I would go to the police and I also gave her the reasons why I don"t like my children to play with him. At this point she became abusive and started shouting in the middle of the street at me so I just shut my door on her. Problem is what do I do now. I"m sick to death of this child looking through my windows and because we don"t own the house and don"t want to live here forever I"m reluctant to pay out of my own pocket for a fence to be put up. This child shouldn"t keep coming into our garden anyway fence or no fence!!! Any help or advice on how to deal with this situation would be gratefully received as this neighbours child is driving me nuts!!!